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Ughh ok.
So ive been with this kid for 2.5 years and its def been rocky. I know i should have left him for a while cause he was involved in drugs. But now hes been in rehab for a month and was calling me everynight and telling me how much he loved me. It was amazing cause it was the guy ive fell in love with and i began to trust him again.
But now 2 days ago he told me he just wanted to take things really slow and just be my friend so that i can meet the real him and build a strong foundation. Now it all mKes sense but its really hard for me to trust hes meaning what hes saying. And i love him a lot but im really unsure if hes just trying to be nice and break up with me or if he really does love me and want to be with me. Cause why say it...
Well last night he called me and i was half asleep so we only talked like 5 mins till i told him i was gonna go. Ans hes like okk ill call you tomorrow. Paused and said well ill call you. Maybe not tomorrow. Then said im just trying to keep things unromantic between us. I mean i still wanna talk to you your my best friend. I was like okay. Bye and hung up.
Then i proceeded to cry for the next hour instead of sleeping. This just broke me cause first of all...he soundes miserable. But i just want to know what you guys think i should do. I really love him and was trying to think of what to do last night so that i wouldnt have to lose him. But if its what i have to do to be happy and this guy is just leading me on then i will. I just feel like this is the time i should be understanding cause hes in rehab...but i dont want to be his friend forever...i want to be more than that. :/ i mean wouldnt he just leave if he disnt want me? Please help :(

You need to be patient with him. Rehab is not easy and he needs to focus on getting better, and having a relationship at the same time is probably too much for him right now. He has probably been advised by his counselors to put a hold on anything romantic while he sorts out his other issues. He is being open with you about what he needs to do, and it's awesome that he wants to share the real him with you. It sounds like he loves you a lot, and wants to do things right this time. Wait for him, he'll come back to you!

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(Rating: 5) thank you! So hard to tell if he just is breaking up with me nicely :/
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