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my boyfriend moved in with me and my parents in August. My parents gave him 6 months to save money and find a place of his own (his mother left him homeless, some mom!) so he is suppose to move out on Valentines Day.
Well finding an apartment he can afford is hard. There are some low income apartments behind my house, BUT he is first on the waiting list; she just said its rarely people move out, or get evicted so it could be a while before a place opens up. My mom told me that my dad isn't kicking him out, so he can stay here until an opening happens. My dad plays mind games. He's verbally abusive; he says that he is kicking him out after his 6 months are up, and it isn't his problem. Which I understand. But my boyfriend hasn't looked anywhere else because of what my mom has told him.
Well, Valentines Day isn't that fiar away, and there are apartments for 575 a month and he cannot afford that on his own. We have looked at trailors, and other apartments and that is the cheapest.
I'm in college to become a Labor and Delivery Nurse, and I have a parttime job, but at my job there is no way I could even help him out with everything. I refuse to let someone i love and care about be homeless again. We have been together for a year and a half; and if I have to I will get a second job.
I am just so stressed; idk what to do! He is so scared of being homeless again; and i hate seeing him hurt.
I'm so sorry its so long, but I need some advice. I just am at a dead end, and idk where to go from here.
Thank you.
Has your boyfriend considered a flatshare? It would be much more affordable than his own place. I know you love him but 2 jobs + college is too much for you to take on. I know you love him but this isn't your responsibility (nor is it that of your parents). Maybe your folks could go and talk to his mom about it. Or perhaps your boyfriend could offer to pay rent to your parents while he sorts himself out.
(Rating: 5) His mom is a pillhead/ meth attic- she picked drugs over her son, and thats why he was homeless. So he doens't speak to her or wht much to do with her.
But we tried the rent thing, and that didn't work either. I'm not too sure what a flatshare is. I've never heard of that, but I'll do some research!
Thank you so much!