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Hey, my name is Katie. I live in Australia with my fiance and 2.5 beautiful children. In my 24 years i have had many ups and downs. I've lost loved ones, I've suffered depression, I've been in an emotionally abusive relationship which ended badly, I've cheated and been cheated on, I've been homeless, I've had cancer... Thats just the tip of the ice-berg. I think I'm pretty well qualified to answer pretty much anything you throw at me.
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Okay I'll try to make this short.
My friend and I have been friends for about 2 years now. In late September of 2011 her husband, her and I engaged in a threesome, then another one a week later. I visit their house about 2-3 times a week. Ever since the threesome her husband has been really flirty with me (but never in front of her.)
He makes out with me in their house when my friend is in the other room, when she goes to the bathroom he takes his penis out and puts my hand on it. I've given him oral sex about 7 times since September, but never anything more.
Another thing he does is we chat on facebook and have pretty inappropriate conversations about sex and 'things we would like to do to each other.'
I want this to stop, after all, he is my Best Friends husband. I get that this isn't his fault, I am also involved. I'm just nervous to tell him that I want to stop, and I don't know how, so I guess that's what I'm looking for advice on. Also, I don't know whether or not I should tell her.
Has anybody ever been in a similar situation where they engaged in sexual activity with their friends partner? I get that what I have done is a VERY bad thing, now I'm just looking for advice on how to rectify the situation.
So... Do I tell her? and How do I tell him that I want to stop without messing up the friendship that he and I have?
Thank you.
Wow, sounds like you're telling me about my life from 5 years ago... Having the threesome was definitely the beginning of the end of your friendship. If you want to save your friendship you absolutely must end this 'affair'. You need to just tell him that it is over and your friendship is more important than a bit of excitement. I cant say whether or not you should tell your friend. Thats up to you and the man to decide together. It is likely to effect both their relationship and the one you have with her.
On the other hand, if you dont really want to save the friendship, or if you feel it is doomed because of this anyway, keep having fun with him, but make sure they end their relationship first.
My situation was almost exactly the same as yours but myself and the man had no desire to end the affair and it continued for a long time. We are now getting married and have almost 2 children together. We realised that the relationships we were both in (bad i know) were toxic, which is the only reason we turned to each other in the first place. We are now happier than we ever were with our ex partners.
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Well to be honest, I am really envious of how everything has turned out for you. I would love to be able to say 5 years form now that everything turned out the same way, but I guess only time will tell. Thank you for your advice.
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