Hi, I call myself Ignatz after Dan Herriman's character in the old "Krazy Kat" comic strip. I'm 44, father of 3, husband to one, crazy about music and books and food and movies and history and martial arts. I've had some wild and crazy times in my life, and I figure I might as well put in some of my perspective.
I promise not to talk down to anyone or make fun,and I promise not to BS anyone. If you're old enough to ask a frank question, you're old enough to get a frank answer. Oh, and if you ask me a question directly, please be patient. I'll get back to you as soon as I can. My life's a bit hectic. :-)
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Ok so Im 12 and I currently have a wonderful boyfriend but he kinda flirts with my best friend. When Im aorund him he doesnt givve me any special attention though. He is my first boyfriend, and slow dance. Then theres this other guy who is a year older than me (13). He IM's me 24/7 he admitts to me that he kinda likes me but likes other people too. I kinda am falling for him and I dont know what to do. We were playing truth over IM the other day and he said that he reall wants to kiss me. I have never kissed anyone before but he has kissed alot of other girls. I asked him for one of my questions if he would ever kiss me while im still dating ___? and he said yes. I have something in side me that wants to kiss him but the other part of me doesnt because i already have a boyfriend. I dont know what to do because the other guy said 'It would be worth kissing you even though I might get slapped'. PLEASEE help, I dont know what to do :( (link)
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Hi: sorry it's taken so long to get back to you. Looks like you're in a pretty common situation: you're involved with someone, the relationship isn't quite what you wanted or expected, and someone else expresses an interest in you. You want to stay loyal, but maybe this new person will be better...
Believe me, I've been there a few times.
Start by asking yourself some questions. Your current boyfriend is flirting with your best friend. Have you talked to him about how that makes you feel? Is this something that you'd be willing to break up with him over if he doesn't stop? Does this other boy have a history or reputation of being a player? (that is, will he treat you better than your current guy?)
You deserve to be treated well, and to have the loyalty of whoever you're dating. At the same time, whoever you're dating deserves to have your loyalty. Sort out your current boyfriend situation first. If you decide to leave him, then leave him and go after this other guy. If not, then end things with the other guy. Divided loyalties are a recipe for major drama. (Unless that's what you want, of course.)
Hope this helps,
Ignatz
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Thanx i have chosen to stay with my current boyfriend and me and the other guy are just friends now :)
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