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My whole life I've been very sheltered. I have very few friends and I'm not that close to my family. I had 4 girlfriends before I was 18. The longest relationship I had lasted almost a year. I've been single for 2 years now.
I'm a virgin, even though I'm great at pleasuring girls sexually in all other ways.
I've been told a lot that I'm quite attractive, with an athletic body. My family is very wealthy, and I have plenty of money. I have a genius IQ and am going to a university (still living at home) and studying in cognitive neurochemistry and biotechnology. I have traveled the world, and have great social skills, and can make people laugh really easily. But I just don't have any close friends. The friends I do have are all nerdy guys who have never touched women.
I don't really have any friends at college. I tried online dating, but it made me kinda feel like a loser because I cant find a girl in real life to be with, plus meeting in person for the first time might be awkward. The women I go out with have all been emotionally abusive as well, which makes me even more reluctant to really try to get into a relationship because I feel like I'm just going to be treated like I'm worthless for the 10th time.
I just don't know how or where to meet people to be honest. Would you consider online dating to be kind of pathetic? I don't like parties, not that I know enough people to be invited to them. I'm too young to go to bars. And I'm not interested in any school or community clubs.
People always tell me "just go out and meet people go to parties and stuff lol", but I'm just not built that way. Is there something wrong with me? All the girlfriends I have had I met in high school or driving school. Now that I'm not around girls that often, I have no chance of getting a girlfriend, never mind a good one.
What do I do? The only time I really feel happy and satisfied is when I have been in relationships, even bad ones. I'm happy with myself, I just hate being so alone all the time. (link)
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Well it sounds like you are limiting yourself. You can't really blame anyone but yourself. To me its as if you are stuck inside your comfort bubble and staying there isn't going to get you a girlfriend.
You don't like online dating and I understand why but it is a way to meet people now a days. I met a guy on there and we dated for a bit but it didn't work out. Sometimes you have to give it a try before you can really make a judgement. Now I'm not talking about an role play site where you meet someone off a 'Harry Potter' site or something. Why not try okcupid.com? It's a great site where you can try tests to match yourself with girls who maybe your type.
You're too young for clubs I understand that then why not go hang out with some friends or friends of friends. By networking you meet people heck that's how I met my boyfriend, I met him through a friend. Networking is a great way to meet people and you never know what you might find.
You're not interested in school or community clubs? Again you're limiting your options here. Do you like sports? Try a sport or something! I think you need to stop making excuses and stop feeling bad pick yourself back up and get out there and meet people. By not socializing you're not helping yourself in finding a girlfriend.
The fact that you only feel happy when you're in a relationship isn't good either, you need to be happy with yourself and you need to be comfortable with you. A girl isn't going to 'fix' anything and relationships cause a lot of 'ups' and 'downs'. Good luck and hope it all works out!
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Rating: 5
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you're totally right. thanks for the advice!
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