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My exboy and I broke up around 3 months ago. We dated originally for 2 years but kept fighting so we decided it was time to call it quits. I have not been able to stop thinking about him and recently he started messaging me on facebook. We talked for like 3 days straight through text message after that and he said things like he hasn't found anyone else or had sex with anyone else. Then he said he still loved me but he just didnt want people to look down on me since he was so lazy. But the thing is...now he isnt really trying to talk to me. Like its been a week and he hasnt made a move to talk to me or anything. Im so confused :[
The thing is..my family and friends all hate him. He treated me pretty badly before but I was so blinded that I never really ended it. I really miss him and I havent really found anyone ive been interested in. Ive made a stupid mistake and I am terrified hes going to find out and just not talk to me ever again. Id rather tell him things in person cause its just better that way.
Im so depressed and I feel like I cant find someone that made me feel the way he did. This is my second real relationship and I am only 20 but Im terrified that I will end up alone because I cant move on from this breakup :[ PLEASE HELP (link)
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It's normal after a break up to stay in contact with your ex but it doesn't help you to move on. You are use to being able to talk to him and confide in him for 2 years. Now it's different and it's scary. He maybe having second thoughts or he might jsut be checking up on how you are doing. I've been in relationships where I never moved on because I didn't force myself to or I would always keep in touch with the guy.
If your ex treated you abd why would you want to talk to him? Whenever I talked to my recent ex it just made me realize how I don't want to be friendly with him. He doesn't deserve my kindness after what he did. You need to think about what he did and remind yourself why he's not with you. Of course you're going to miss him and you're not going to find someone right away. You need to concentrate on you and be you for awhile. I think the best bet for you is to be single and enjoy it.
The stupid mistake you have made doesn't even matter. You're not with him so there's no point in telling him. To me it seems you are trying to find ways to talk to him and get a reaction out of him. You aren't allowing yourself to move on. You're 20 years old and theres a whole lot of there.
I know how you feel and better I would never wish that pain on anyone but you need to move on. Forget about him. Delete him from your phone. Block him from facebook. Forget about him and start thinking about you! I hope you feel better and keep your head up it will get better.
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