Q: heres the long story semi short. I used to work with this guy that I spoke to but we were never exactly close, and I had transfered to a different store and never got to say bye to him, he was asking around on what happened to me and everyone told him I had school, anyways, he had came to my store to drop something off and was surprised to see me. we exchanged numbers and spoke, we hung out, kissed, bought me food and visited me on my breaks on his night off and what not.. he gave me mixed signals and the whole bit.. we then had a blow out and stopped talking last January. I had moved across country 2 weeks later, and was gone until August. In March is when we had our birthday's and I didn't want to tell him happy birthday on his exact day so I waited a week later and texted him "hey", I got no response and the next week was my birthday and he texted me on the exact day and said "u back?" and I went "huh?" and got no response back.. I came home, and a week of being home I was having a car issue and I needed a quick answer so he was the first one I thought of..so I texted him.. with no absolute intentions of being friends again. but he is a car freak so it kind of worked. haha..anyways, he started talking to me again, and I told him that I had no intentions on being friends again. He found it a tad painful..and we kinda talked about the whole situation.. things started falling back to how they used to be..and he was all flirty with me.. calling me and texting me when I didn't. Everyone around me knew I was confused on what I wanted..and wasn't sure if I wanted to be friends with him or not, and he was going through some major stuff.. and I tried to stick by him while dealing with my stuff and adjusting to being home after being on my own for 7 months.. and well I purposely pushed him away last week...and we blew up into a whole big fight again..and he tried to hurt me by calling me a slut and a dumb bitch and another 4 letter word that I won't repeat (but you can guess what word it was). and in the process I just laughed during the whole fight through text message because he was finding a way to hurt me when he knew I wasn't any of these words that he was calling me..
5 days later (yesterday).. he texts me "hi" and I go "can i help you?" and hes all "oh sorry" and im like "?" and hes all "its tj", and im all 'why are u talking to me?" and i got no response.. and hour later i asked him again.. and he said it wasn't him that said it, and i asked him why is my number still in his phone (though clearly my number was in his phone while i was gone and we didnt speak for 7 months), and he never responded and finally he said that i was an asshole and that he never wanted me and that he had a girl and i just didn't get it.. and i snapped back that he had kissed me after he told me "friends dont kiss", and he told me to eff off.. and again I never got the reason of why does he still have my number..and well decided not to respond back to him..
On monday I had decided to change my number to get away from him and my ex.. (and ironically this dude texts me the next morning when it wasn't him?) anyways, my new number goes into affect the 27th because I had submitted applications for new jobs so I can't change my number just yet..my friend and I were discussing how it would be a good idea 2 days before my number changes to text him and tell him my last piece on how I really thought of him as a brother more than anything, I'm going to take 2 weeks to really think about what to say before I say it.. but do you think I should go with it and speak my last piece and then have my number change, then we have no accidental calls or texts anymore and we have no form of contact unless one of us has to go to the other store for something? and what do you think I should say? by the way he's 32 and i'm 21..
