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Hi,
Here's the question. I've been with my bf for almost 3 yrs now.. and as far as I think.. it seems to be going pretty well..We have even talked about getting married etc...Anyways.. I asked my bf a long while ago how come in all this time I have never been able to come over to your house.. ie: see it or hang out there.. He says that he lives in a small shack kinda condo and is embarrassed to take me there.. Mind u he's seen my place and all. and I'm not ashamed to bring him there.. He comes over all the time.. I just egnored it and thought ok whatever.. then I realized his cousin and his family come over all the time and he has no issues with it so why me.. and secondly.. he always says to me to make more of an effort to get along with his mom... which I try but it works both ways too. not one sided.. and Thanks Giving is coming up.. how come she invited his cousin's family and not me.. I am so confused.. what do I think.. what do I do? does she really like me? does he really want me mixing in with his family? Does he really see a future for us? or just playing me along giving me high hopes... any ideas? I'm soo stressed.. (link)
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I think you might be reading way to into this. I tend to hang out mroe at my boyfriend's hosue than I do my own not because I'm ashamed its just how it works out most of the time. Why should it matter where you're hanging out as long as you're with each other. Ever heard of the expression 'blood is thicker than water'. His cousin goes to his house because that's his family!
Well what si your relationship with his mother? Do you talk to her? Don't put the blame game on her what can you do to make the relationship with his mom better?
Thanskgiving is usually a holiday where families get together. I never hang out with my boyfriend on Thanksgiving because that's my time to be with my family. I love his family but I want to spend time with mine of the holidays.
I think in the end you NEED to talk to your boyfriend because these questions you're asking can only be answered by him. If you don't feel right about thigns let him know and communicate. Communication and trust are the two things you need most in a relationship. Good luck!
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I agree with you.. Communication and trust is very important.. I don't understand why his mum didn't just say..Mona you come over to.. or even call me. he makes it such a big issue for me to get more closer to her yet when I call her she acts like shes surprised/shocked as t why I am calling. I can tell it in her voice...it goes both ways not one.. and I don't want to go bend over backwards to please someone or what not if they don't receive it well or do anything in return.. Am I wrong to feel that way? pls do tell me...
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