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My name is Megan, I'm 22 years old, and I live in Brownwood, Texas! I am engaged to a wonderful man who just takes my breath away. ;) I'm an EKG Tech and I LOVE my job. I had a column here YEARS ago, but simply cannot remember the log in :)

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My best friend and I use to spend almost everyday together. We are both females & 26. I have a 1 year old daughter and my best friend is/was a significant part of her life as well. Her boyfriend just quit his job because he is moving 6 hours away. He's not positive when he's moving but possibly in 2 months. Now that he has quit his job they spend every night and day together. The only time I see her is if her BF has something else to do. This really hurts my feelings and I'm feeling taken advantage of. She came to my house last night,for the 1st time in 3weeks (her BF was at one of his friends house). She couldn't get here until 12:30am but we planned on watching one of our favorite shows and even though I had to get up at 6am w/ my baby I so badly wanted to spend time w/ my friend. Well we didn't even get to watch our show because a half hour after she got here her BF called and said he wanted to go get something to eat and so she left. I'm not the kind of girl that gets jealous of my best friends relationship w/ her bf. It just drives me nuts because I could never imagine treating a friend like that and then expecting that friend to be there for me 100% when my BF moves away. Its even more hurtful because I have a one year old daughter that she use to see everyday and now hasn't seen her in over a month. My friend always says "I feel so bad that I haven't seen you guys but he's moving so I want to spend as much time with him as possible". I feel like my friendship is being taken for granted. Am I being selfish or being taken advantage of?

I can understand both sides.

On yours, you feel abandoned. On hers, she is GOING to feel abandoned.

When it comes to a romantic relationship, people really cling to that. She clearly really loves her boyfriend and I can understand her wanting to spend as much time with him as she possibly can before he moves, though I do think it's unfair for her to be your friend only when it's convenient for her.

Best solution is just talk to her. Don't guilt her, just simply state how you're feeling. Try to be as understanding about her situation as you'd expect her to be about yours.

Hopefully y'all can patch things up! :)

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(Rating: 5) Thank you so much for your honest opinion. I've been trying to be very understanding of her situation but also felt it I was being treated a little unfairly. I really appreciate your advice.
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