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I'm 18/F

I've never been kissed, never been on a date, and have never been in a relationship.

Is that normal? I feel like i'm not good enough for anyone to love me, or even like me...

I mean... I've never really put myself out there, or flirted or anything, but no one's ever made an effort for me either.

I'm just kinda freaking out over this.

Hey,
This is completely normal, even though it may not seem that way. I see it as a form of self control actually. Most girls have had their first kiss by the age of 15 only because they don't care about the outcome of the relationship with that guy (not all, but most). So, they will do anything to kiss a guy, just to say they did (peer pressure helps alot too). I can tell you think otherwise though.. for you have waited Or perhaps haven't had the chance yet.


Either way, this doesn't mean that you shouldn't be able to desire a guy or date one. It just means that you are taking your time and not rushing into anything -completely okay. I never had my first kiss until I was 18. That said, I also believe a kiss has nothing to do with "when" you have it, but about "who" you share that moment with. If you are putting yourself out there just to 'kiss' any guy, there isn't really a point. You know?


When you do find the guy, you likely won't have to flirt or put yourself out there even. You will know its meant to be and you will have that first kiss because you both want it to happen. In case you want to, a few things you could do to up your chances of meeting a guy, which in turn brings you closer to a kiss: playing sports, being involved in a club/organization or going to the mall. Also, saying hello to a cute stranger, ordering a drink where a hot guy works every week, walking by the electronics or asking a guy for help with something/to find something (they are glad to help)... things like that.


I would not be in a rush to get a kiss if I were you, its not worth rushing into. And please don't freak out over it. For when you find the guy who wants to kiss you as much as you want to feel his lips on yours, it will be much more special than just any guys kiss... trust me on this

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(Rating: 5) Thank you so much. =)
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