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I'm just an average person. I love to help people out :) it makes me feel better about myself. I've been in a lot of situations so I can most likely relate to a lot of your problems. I know what it feels like to not have anyone to talk to about your problems, which is why i'm an advicenator. I'm ready to help people and be there for everyone who needs advice or just a companion to speak out to. I'm always here if you need me, don't hesitate to drop a question or even just a vent/rant note about a problem to my advice column inbox. I respond to all of them regardless of the topic. I'm upfront and abrupt about my answers and never sugarcoat. Take my advice or not, but i'm just doing my job :)Played volleyball for over 10 years, also a coach. I love to try new things. Currently I'm trying the new sport of tennis and learning about my passion of photography.
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There is something in my mind that always wants me to want attention.
I used to cut myself, and in a way that was my way of craving attention from friends etc. I have stopped that now, but I'll say something that causes attention to myself and put something in a sentence that will obviously cause attention to myself.
How can I stop craving this type of attention? Basically I can say I don't think before I speak.
Can someone just help me because this time I can't answer a question on my own. :/
You just have to learn how to control yourself. Control your mind and body.
You're not alone.. everyone wants attention in some type of way. I always want attention when I do something good, like get first place in a competition. Someone might want attention when something bad happens. Some people just want attention in general.
The key is.. think about other people before yourself. Yes, you do want attention. But there are other people out there who crave attention, just like you. Maybe you should give them a chance. I know this sounds cliche.. but be the better person. Instead of always saying "me me me. I want this and I want that", but yourself aside and think about other people. Give them the opportunity to shine.
Let me tell you a quick story. I was on my schools varsity volleyball team ever since sophomore year. I didn't get ANY playing time until senior year. Ever since I was a sophomore, my coach would always say to me "just sit on the bench and when its time, it'll be your turn to shine". And so for 2 years I patiently waited for my turn. The player who was playing in my position for 2 years got all the attention. But then came senior year, she had to graduate and then it was my turn to get the attention.
So my point is.. you've had some attention already.. maybe its time for you to "step down" and let someone else get the attention for a while. Just like that player did for me, senior year.
I know its tough.. but next time you want to brag about your new boyfriend/girlfriend, or show off something new you bought.. take a deep breathe and think "its someone else's turn now"
Learn to control yourself.
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That means a lot to me, thank you for you help! It's very beneficial. (: