Hey my name is Ashley, Im very down to earth and truthful, all my friends come to me for advice whether they like what i have to say or not, thats the gift I have I can solve anyone elses problems except my own. I want to be a writer or a journalist someday, but for now the most I can do is give you people advice about anything so let me know whats on your mind.
Sincerly, Ashley
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Age: 19
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I met my best friend in 2009, I Didn’t get close to him until October 2010, since then we have been inseparable. Phoning, texting or emailing each other constantly, since October, there hasn’t been a day where I haven’t spoken to him.
In February he told me he had feelings towards me, but not entirely, he was unsure of how he felt. I only saw him as a friend. Until April where I told him I felt the same that I was confused about how I felt towards him but we were still more friends.
Since then, he held my hand and held me close in his arms whenever we were alone, I knew we had crossed the friendship line
All our friends teased us about each other, since all we did was hang out together and talk to each other, wherever he was, I would be.
In may, I realised I had fallen for him and he had always told me to tell him if my feelings towards him changed, but I told him I wouldn’t because I was so scared of rejection.
I told him and he said he felt the same, of course I was overjoyed
Until a week later he told me he had changed his mind and didn’t feel the same and he only saw me as a friend.
I felt like I couldn’t trust him anymore, if he could change his mind in a couple of days
It took a couple of weeks and I thought I couldn’t bring it up anymore or it may lose our friendship
Last week he told me that he liked another girl and that he had completely fallen for her, since then he barely speaks to me, not even to say hi or ask how I‘m doing
Everything has changed, wwhen I ask him how he is doing, he answers with vague answers saying he’s feeling low and he won’t tell me what is happening
Its like he’s shut me out of his life, I realised the other day that I was putting more effort into keeping this friendship alive, more than him, so I gave up and now I barely speak to him
And today I may have asked him if he was still alive and he responded immediately and so I asked him if he hadn’t spoken to me because he was just ignoring me and he said
I don’t need you hating me too and he stopped responding
Can you please help me with what to do?
I feel like I’ve completely lost my best friend, I feel so lost and upset, I am so hurt but I miss him but feel that it’s the end. How do I cope?
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what you need to do is sit him down face to face and be straight forward with him this aint about liking him anymore this is about saving your friendship so don't hold back tell him how you really feel it cant hurt especially if he doesnt wanna be your friend anymore
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Thanks for the advice, I followed it and we're now talking as we did :)
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