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Played volleyball for over 10 years, also a coach. I love to try new things. Currently I'm trying the new sport of tennis and learning about my passion of photography.

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I'm always crying and my eyes are usually swollen, I've had a rough year, constantly getting bullied. My teachers just pretended that they cared what was going on in my life. My face is usually greasy + pimply, and I have a crush on a guy who will probably never like me back. I hate being 12.

hey there

I know what you are going through. Being a tween/teenager is such a rough time. There's always lots of drama and lots of pressure put on you. At this age, you're always competing.. competing for guys, being the prettiest, having the most friends, being the smartest, being the best at everything.. well let me tell you this- none of those things really matter.

I'm 18- that's 6 years older than you. I went through the same thing you did, and almost everybody went through this too. Its called growing up. Everybody has experienced it at least once. Let me give you a heads up- none of these things matter. I used to think that I had to have a lot of friends, be really popular, look the prettiest and have a ton of boyfriends. That was just high school haha. But then I realized.. i'm never going to see these people again. Why does it matter?? Why should I put myself through all of this trouble, if it doesn't matter?

Set aside those stupid "stereotypes" and be your own person.

You're young. You should be enjoying life and having tons of fun. Don't start stressing about these stupid little things. Actually, i wish I could go back to being 12 years old and take my own advice. I regret so much that I was worrying constantly and always pushing myself way too hard. I never really had any fun either. Because I was pushing myself and it just wore me out and I never really had fun.

Do you know what living life actually means?? its not about how much money you have, or how many friends, or how pretty you are.. that's not how you "live" life. Living life is when you're happy. YOU are happy. You are pleasing yourself and doing things to your fullest potential. This means you shouldn't do things to please other people. Do whatever makes you happy, and let other people think what they want. Because in the end, their opinions will never matter. All that matters is that you're having the best time of your life. 10 years from now, you want to look back at your life and smile, and think "wow. I had so much fun when I was 12." instead of thinking- "I had a terrible time when I was 12 because i was always worrying about small stupid things".

Just go out and be your own person and have fun! If small things like acne and being overweight annoy you, then try eliminating them (in a safe way!). Wash your face 2x a day and use acne products. Work out more to lose a few pounds. Get that courage to talk to that cutie boy and ask him for his phone number and to hang out. Hang out with your friends and go do fun things like a girls night out, shopping, sleepovers etc.

Don't worry about the small things because they never matter. All that matters is that YOU are happy :)

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