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I am 64 yrs old. My mother is 91. I come from a very Italian background. My mother has 1 daughter (me) and 1 son. She lives 8 minutes from me now. Always been dependent on me and needy. Next year my husband and I plan on retiring. Our goal is to move to Florida. We have no specific plan other than to sell our home and wing it. How can I ever make such a move and plan on taking my mom at some point in time. She occupies a condo and lives alone. Pretty self sufficient but I do talk to her just about everyday, visit once a week and whatever else she may need. How can I make this transition as easy and with a minimum amount of stress. I have only touched the surface of this but I see it as a huge problem. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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Romy
Well you can't plan all of this and move behind her back without knowing.. right?
So I suggest you go over there and tell her that you've been thinking about having a change in your life. You and your husband will retire and sell your house and move to florida. Insist that she comes with you. Its very polite and I'm sure she would love it, considering she is a mother who is in need of her daughter :)
If she has a problem with it, then calmly talk to her about it and figure out a solution. Perhaps she could stay there with a nanny or care-taker and you would visit her every so often. Maybe you and your husband could talk about it and come up with a different solution, like moving somewhere closer rather than Florida. Communication is key.
Good luck!
(Rating: 4) Thank you. I never planned on not telling her as she knows this has been a plan for the last 25 yrs. Leaving her behind would be totally out of the question. I just don't know how I plan to sell and move and then sell and move her. Communication will be key; I just don't want the stress to overtake me and not have the patience for her.