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18/f, she's 17/f. (never in my life have i ever liked girls like this. i've always been into guys, but she's different)
she came to school at the beginning of the year and i thought she was quite annoying. she thought i was a bitch. recently, we started talking a lot more and we're becoming pretty good friends, i guess. i noticed that i'd get really happy when i see her. i'm always looking forward to having classes with her. i've had a few erotic dreams about her but i never thought anything of them. i never really thought anything about all of this. then, about 2 weeks ago, she got upset during class and started crying. something inside me broke. i couldn't stand to see her upset. i tried to comfort her and get her to stop crying but nothing seemed to be working and it upset me greatly. all i wanted to do was just hold her and tell her everything would be all right. this is when i figured out i was in love with her. now, you might be thinking "no, you're a teenage girl, you just THINK you're in love." and i'm here to say: you couldn't be any more incorrect. i know when i'm in love. i've been in love with two boys my entire life, and i remember when i first felt something for both of them, it was the same exact thing i'm feeling for her, now: i'd do anything for her. literally, ANYTHING. we complete eachother. i care about her life more than mine. all i ever want to do anymore is be close to her.
but the problem with this is i have a boyfriend. we've been together for about 3.5 years. lately, he's neglecting me up the ass. we never hang out. he never calls. i don't have his new number so i can't call him. i'm thinking about dumping him, but i don't want to because what if she doesn't like me back? she's abundantly bisexual, but i'm getting mixed signals. like she'll hang out with me all the time in school and then when i ask her if she wants to hang out over the weekend, she says she'll text me but she blows me off! and i don't wanna risk scaring her away by texting her all the time: "are you there?" "do you still wanna hang out?" "any plans today?" etc. i just really don't know what to do about all this. and on top of everything, I'M STRAIGHT. i've had one other girl crush, but i've always maintained that i could just make out with her at a party or something. to be honest, i really don't like girls at all. they're too much drama and teenage girls are all just a huge wreck. idk what it is i see in this other chick, but i could do anything and everything for her, i would try to be good to her, i'd try my hardest to keep her happy and stay with her, etc. what should i do? (link)
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Woooooowww!! :D I swear almost the same thing happened to me earlier this year. I didn't think I was into girls either, I thought it was just weird! But it really isn't. First off, just let me say that I know this was written a while ago, so I really hope you got rid of your "boyfriend". NOBODY deserves to be treated like that. Second, it would be fine if you asked her if she still wanted to hang out or something. I know why you're worried.. but if you think about it, if she doesn't know how you feel about her, and she thinks you're just friends, then it would be completely normal to ask one of your friends to hang out, am I right? Jeez.. I bet you figured this out already and I'm wasting my time. But I still want to help. All I can say is be there for her. That's the FIRST thing she'd notice, is a friend that's always there for her. Then she'll notice YOU more. She'll think about how much you care about her and want her to be happy, and she'll start to realize how much she cares about you too. Wow I really hope nothing happened already :\ You see, this is why you're supposed to read the dates that the advice was needed BEFORE you start writing 20 paragraphs! haha. But really, I hope everything works out for you!! And if it did already, then great! And if not, I know how you feel. I've already been interested in two girls and I went about those "crushes" completely the wrong way. I hope you don't make all of the mistakes I've made and I hope you have a great life no matter who you end up with!! :D Inbox me if you need help with anything else. :)
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lol not too much has changed. i did get rid of my boyfriend, we're just friends now. and with the girl, i told her how i felt and i'm pretty certain she likes me back :) this love of mine has blossomed into something unimaginable and its ridiculous how much i wanna be with her. nothing has happened between us yet but i think it will, soon. :) thanks for the advice all the same!
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