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Q: So my boyfriend came over a week ago and we talked for about 3 hours...at first I was upset with him because I felt like we were growing apart and fighting a lot more about stupid things and he didn't want to talk to me and fix things. After a lot of tears, he finally broke through and told me how he felt. After that everything just flooded out from both of us and we made a huge 'break through' in our relationship. We both decided that even though we're in love, in the long run we probably weren't going to last. But I asked him if we were still going to try and he said yes of course...sooo we're still going out and things have been going better then ever since then but I was just wondering if this will be good for me. I love him and I love hanging out with him, but should I keep being with him if our personalities clash? We haven't gotten into any fights lately, but I'm sure we will eventually start again...I mean, yeah we fight a lot but the good times ALWAYS make up for the bad times...So what do you all think? Should I run this thing into the ground? Or might we actually have a chance? Any advice is good, thank you all so much.
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It sounds to me like you have a pretty solid basis for a good relationship. Everyone argues now and then. But when you do fight, are they knock down drag outs? Do they escalate to something physical? If so, then it's not a good idea to stay in the relationship. If not, then maybe you can work it out. It sounds like the two of you have been keeping the lines of communication open (having had a 3 hr talk shows this). Communication is one of THE most important skills in maintaining an open relationship. You don't say how old the two of you are. That might play a part in things as well. One thing I did notice is that you seem to be waiting for the other shoe to drop...that is you say you haven't been fighting lately, but you're sure it'll start up eventually. If you are anticipating issues then they're bound to crop up. Try just focusing on the good times you have when you're together and don't sweat the small stuff. I hope this helps a bit. Good luck!
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Merry Meet!
I'm a mom of three grown children. I've been married, divorced and now recently remarried. I've had more than my fair share of life's hard knocks and have been knocked down more times than I can count, but still manage to get back up and go at life again. All this gives me tons of experience to draw upon when giving out my advice. I love people and honestly want to help. Please feel free to ask me questions directly if you like and I promise to answer each one of them.
Brightest Blessings to All!!
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