hi, im Zoe and im from Dublin
im just on here because i wanted to volunteer in something useful and that I will enjoy doing :)
Gender: Female
Location: Dublin, Ireland
Age: 23
Member Since: January 3, 2011
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18f. My boyfriend and I decided after four months, mutually that we should be friends. Hes the same age. Things had been going good, but then things would feel off and we would not see eachother for a while and then be happy when we were together again. I felt we needed more interesting things to do when we were together and he just seemed content. One day he seemed real frustrated at me and so I had brought up the idea of being friends for awhile, he said he agreed. His one guy friend said to me that he probably didn't want to break up and that he just agreed, which makes me wonder if he still has feelings. I don't have any close friends/family to talk to or hang out with and so all I can think about is him. I feel as if I lost the only person I had going for me, but I also feel it was kind of the right thing to do. I hope to find another guy, but every nice guy seems taken. I am a friendly, approachable person. What to do?
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i have been in this situation before and i think looking back now where you said "I also feel it was kind of the right thing to do." i think thats your answer right there, if you felt complete regret and sadness about the whole thing and kept asking yourself "IF IT WAS THE RIGHT THING" you would feel alot worse, i think because you feel it deep down then thats what made you let go of him, which doesnt make you a "lost person" or the only thing that was going for you, it means your strong headed and you know thats not what you wanted and you were strong enough to let go and be alone (which you used to fear)and not just settle for the safe one but you've faced up to that now haven't you? :) of course your gonna feel some sadness but now its time to think of you and what you'd like to do in YOUR life, you dont need other people around you to start, you'll meet them on your way :) good luck :)
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I can see what you mean by "not what you wanted, but were strong enough to let go". That sounds alot like me.. strong (in that term). Thank you :)
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