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Hi. I've lived quite a life since childhood. My parents divorced when I was 14. I was married at 19 and only lasted about a year and a half. Then I really explored my sexual side because I thought I was a failure with my parents and my own love life. For a while during that time, I thought I was going to become a lesbian because I was feed up with men. I traveled around the country and stayed at different relatives homes for a while. I even tried college for a short time but always felt lost. I finally settled down at 30 with a decent, loving man, that treats me well. I hope that I can help you if you decide to come to me for advice.
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Our brother's wife is overbearing and mean at every family get together. She goes on and on about how wonderful she is, how she does everything right while at the same time being mean and spiteful to everyone around her, particularly the children in the family. She takes over and acts like she's the one in charge every chance she gets. And she thinks nothing of making hurtful, spiteful comments. None of us say anything and continue to tolerate the behavior because we don't want to alienate our brother (who isn't much better than his wife). I say it's time we tell this know-it-all bully that we've had enough. If she doesn't care who's feelings she hurts then why should we? What's the worst that can happen? She stops talking to us? Big whoop I say. I just don't want it to be me who finally blows my top at the next family function while everyone sits by and acts like her behavior doesn't bother them. We've all discussed the situation and agree that she's become unbearable.
I'm guessing that the family functions are at your parents house. If that's the case, the family needs to tell them of your concerns. If they don't want to address it in fear of hurting their sons feelings, then the rest of you need to make a seperate date for a visit. The brother & his wife can go on one weekend and the rest of you on another. That should send a clear enough message to your brother that you don't approve of their behavior. Hope this helps and good luck.
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I actually did that for Thanksgiving. My Mom's the type who wants everyone to get along and act like we're the Waltons I guess so we continue to put up w/this bully for Mom's sake. I just feel bad for my sis cuz it's her kids that get picked on all the time. Honestly I don't know how my sis keeps from punching this person in the face :)Thanks so much for your answer!
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