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I'm just an average person. I love to help people out :) it makes me feel better about myself. I've been in a lot of situations so I can most likely relate to a lot of your problems. I know what it feels like to not have anyone to talk to about your problems, which is why i'm an advicenator. I'm ready to help people and be there for everyone who needs advice or just a companion to speak out to. I'm always here if you need me, don't hesitate to drop a question or even just a vent/rant note about a problem to my advice column inbox. I respond to all of them regardless of the topic. I'm upfront and abrupt about my answers and never sugarcoat. Take my advice or not, but i'm just doing my job :)

Played volleyball for over 10 years, also a coach. I love to try new things. Currently I'm trying the new sport of tennis and learning about my passion of photography.

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I've always been a positive person. Though deep down inside I've dealt with a lot. I hate the person I am, and it's hard to change without any help... I've seriously thought about killing myself so I won't bother those around me, and so I can be done with being miserable. I can't afford to see a Psychologist, and I just want to know if anyone has ever been in this type of situation. A situation where everything is going downhill, you hate your own self, and you seem to have no way out. Thanks to everyone who answers.

oh boy i sound just like you..

i have my moments when everything is great :) i'm happy and carefree.

then i have my moments when everything goes downhill and i feel like i'm losing control of my life. Its normal. a lot of people feel that way too. you're not alone.

I talked to a good friend of mine about how i felt and he said that the reason i feel like my life is sucky is because i'm looking at everything that is wrong in a big picture. If you think about every bad thing at once.. youre gonna feel like you've lost control of your life and feel depressed.

you need to look at things in small pieces. take 1 thing that you don't like. lets say its your grades in school. (i dont know if this is in your case) but lets say your grades suck. just focus on 1 thing at a time and try to get better at that. then once your grades improve, go onto the next problem. lets say you dont get along with parents. try to solve that. you know what i mean? just solve your problems one at a time. you can't solve everything at once in one night. It WILL take a lot of time and effort. but you need to be ready for that and committed to improving your life.

if something gets better but then gets worse again, don't lose hope! everything happens for a reason. some things fall apart so better things can fall together. if you and a friend don't get along, then it wasn't meant to be for you 2 to be friends.

also, if it helps you, make a huge long list of everything you love about yourself. start off with big things like- i never give up, i'm confident. then go into smaller categories like- i have good hair, i manage time well, i'm responsible.

things like that will boost your self esteem. if you only think about the bad stuff in life, you wont be happy. Think of the glass as half full instead of half empty :)

inbox me if you have more questions :) i'd love to help you.

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(Rating: 5) Thank you so much :) It helps to know that someone out there cares and that I'm not alone.

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