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jujubeann
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my boyfriend is annoying..
he's a year younger than me (i'm 18) and he's only been in 1 relationship prior to me. i honestly feel like i have to teach him everything. how to act, what to say, what to expect blah blah blah..
i'm a huge feminist. i believe that women can pay for their own things and i dont like getting anything without me earning it..
he always buys me things. no matter what it is. candy, water, pencil, book.. at first it was sweet, but now its to the point where i want to yell at his face like "seriously stop! i can buy stuff for myself. i dont need to depend on you for money" i've tried talking to him about it once but he keeps doing it..
another thing that irritates me about him is that he wont accept the fact that i have personal stuff that i dont want to tell him about. like just now.. he asked me what i'm doing tomorrow and i said just personal stuff. not a big deal. none of his business. then he starts accusing me of lying. asking if another guy is involved. i tell him the truth- no. i'm not hiding anything from him. its personal and i prefer not to share it with him.. he still wont leave it alone. then he starts b*tching me out about hiding things from him and how he has to know these things.. i b*tched him back out saying "its my life. you dont need to know every single thing that happens. there are things that i want to keep to myself. and this is one of them. its nothing bad. i'm not cheating on you. i'm not doing anything bad. its just something i dont want to share with you. so leave it alone." and he just wont stop bugging me about it.
its gotten so bad to the point where i told him "when you finally learn how to respect me and treat me right- come talk to me. because right now you're acting like an overcontrolling jackass"
i just dont know what to do anymore. we have been dating for about 3 months and he's very sweet sometimes and i like him a lot, but there are times when i just want to yell at his face and cry because he is so annoying and causes a lot of drama and fights..
what do i do? everytime we try to talk about it, we end up fighting. help!! (link)
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hey...
lol i was also in the same situation not so long ago so i know the feeling when your bf treats you like a two year old and you cant really say anything coz you scared to hurt his feelings and when you try to say it nicely u guys end up fighting...
you should tell him that he needs to give you space to do ''girly'' tings and that yourl need to respect each others space bcz he is going to drive you away. tell him dat u were brought up to be independent so he should stop being so clingy and let you have some time to yourself... tell him that he needs to understands where you coming from because its annoying to fight for every small thing.
try not to be too hard on him as you are his 2nd girlfriend altough try to hint that he should grow up abit..
if this does not work... then you need to ask him for some time out because if he cant listen and understand you now , he never will...
gudluck:)
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