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Okay this may be kinda long im sorry just bear with me please. so here is the story... my parents have been together for 15 years. It will be 16 this march. I guess my mom was talking to an ex boyfriend on facebook, then they started e-mailing and i guess they met for lunch a couple of times. This ex of hers is also married and has a wife and children. Well my dad told my mom he had a bad feeling and he knew that she had been talking to him. Yet he said word for word what was in their e-mails. I know that he went through my moms email there is no way he could have known word for word what was in the e-mail. Which i dont think is right at all but it wasnt right for my mom to be talking to this guy either. she told me that my dad had found out that she was talking to this ex a while ago and asked her to stop. Yet she continued behind his back. My mom is 36 and my dad 40. Im 17 years old and i have a younger sister who is 10 and a younger brother who is 6. I guess i just dont understand why my mom would do something like this. She is always the one who says "if your happily married you shouldnt need or want anyone else and when you do it is time to end the relationship." But i know for a fact that she is madly in love with my dad. Apparently this ex meant something to her or she wouldnt have done this. but she came crying to me yesterday saying that my dad wants a divorce. me and my mom have a very close relationship and she apologised for not telling me about this sooner. my dad wont even talk to her. I dont know what to do or say. He handed her two grand in cash yesterday and told her that it would get her on her feet and she needed to leave and she told him she wasnt going to leave us. I guess all im asking is what do i do here. Me and my mom have always been closer than me and my dad but i feel sorry for my dad, yet i feel sorry for my mom. im stuck in the middle here and im confused! i just need to know how to act and what to say. If my mom leaves im going with her but i dont want my dad to be mad at me for leaving him. See my dilema? any advice would be greatly appreciated. thanks in advance! (link)
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Perhaps you could write them both a letter asking them to get some counseling and try and work on their marriage. Their divorce will make a huge difference in your family's lives. It is very much your business.
Try not to take sides feelings. Just express your feelings. Many couples are able to work past problems like this and it's better for everyone when they can.
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