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Is this abuse. I have been wanting to go back to school (college) since my husband and I started dating. He told me I dont need to go to school I need to work. Friday, I called the college and talked to someone about signing up for online school, one class at a time and work. Well when we all went to town he said where to I said walmart and I need to go by the college and he gave me a look and said for i said to pick up papers to sign up for school and he keep asking me why. I said because I want to. Well after walmart and he did his errons he went home and didnt even start to head towards the college. Hes constantly yelling at my 3 year old. ( his step son) My father says im being abused emotionally. I love him even though there is constant conflict mostly because he wont look or keep a job.I think im scared to leave.

well he is pretty much controlling you... i would call it abuse. abuse comes in many different ways. physical and emotional. he is basically telling you that you cant go to school and that you have to work and he's yelling at your son..

my opinon is that you are scared to leave. but look at it this way, wouldn't you rather be happy knowing that he's not controlling you and that you are in control of your own life??

i'm a HUGE feminist. i believe women have rights and we shouldn't be treated like this. we aren't a computer. if guys want to control us, they might as well buy a robot, put a wig on it and name it... we are not robots. we are women with rights and we don't deserve this.

stand up for yourself. yes it will be hard. but if i were you, i would be fed up with this and i would shove it all in his face and say "you know what? you aren't the boss of me. you can't control me and i'm not giving up on my life just because you say so. who says i have to listen to you? i'm leaving." have the courage and stand up for yourself and for your son. he doesn't deserve this either. what did he do wrong? he's just being his normal 3 year old self.. yet he has to put up with your husbands abuse everyday?? thats not fair for him..

do it for yourself and for your son. neither of you deserve to be unhappy. you are the only person in charge of your life. no matter how far you go down the wrong road, you can always turn back around :)

good luck. inbox me if you need more help!

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