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Hi. I've lived quite a life since childhood. My parents divorced when I was 14. I was married at 19 and only lasted about a year and a half. Then I really explored my sexual side because I thought I was a failure with my parents and my own love life. For a while during that time, I thought I was going to become a lesbian because I was feed up with men. I traveled around the country and stayed at different relatives homes for a while. I even tried college for a short time but always felt lost. I finally settled down at 30 with a decent, loving man, that treats me well. I hope that I can help you if you decide to come to me for advice.
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This is pretty long if I go in detail so I will try to sum it up for you. I am 21 years old and my boyfriend is 22. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year and a half now. We rarely fight and if we do they are for legitimate reasons. But one thing that has bugged me since we started dating was his lack of showing me he loves me. I am not materialistic and I don't expect to be bought things all the time and wined and dined. But I do expect him to show some love on days like my birthday or Valentines Day, and our One Year Anniversary. My birthday we had been dating four months and he got me nothing and even threw a tantrum saying he was tired when we went out to celebrate my 21st when it was only 11 PM and we had been out for one hour. So we left and went home, which deep down upset me because it was MY birthday! Then Valentines Day came around and he told me 3 days before it that we shouldn't get eachother anything because he thinks Valentine's Day is overrated. Our one year anniversary we did absolutely nothing! He said he was broke and we would do something another time, but it has been 3 months since that and everytime I bring it up nicely he just blows it off and says sometime we will. I have been in several long relationships before him lasting 2 to 3 years each and all of those have been the same way. I always see other guys in relationships with their girlfriends taking cute pictures, celebrating anniversaries, and being taken out or even having their men cook for them on their birthdays. I don't want to be whiny and sound materialistic, but I feel like when I cook for him EVERYDAY and do his laundry, clean up his messes, and always do something special for him even on days that aren't his birthday or a holiday, that I should get something back in return! It's VERY frustrating and it is started to make me pull away from him. I don't want to TELL him what I want because then it doesn't feel special, but even if I hint towards it he just blows it off and acts like it is not important. Is he just not the right type of guy for me? Why are most guys like this? And what is the difference between the guy I am with and the other guys that really actually do sweet things for the girls they love?
I'm just guessing but is your guy hot? Because the hot ones are usually the biggest jerks. I know that it's nice to go for looks but you've got to do some soul searching. First thing to do is dump this total loser, you are wasting your time on this guy. He is obviously using you for his needs and could care less about yours. Also you may want to date someone a little bit older with a lot more maturity and knows how to respect women. Even if a guy doesn't love you, he still should treat you better than this loser did. Good luck and I hope you find what you're looking for.
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Thanks for the advice. He is pretty hot and sometimes used to be arrogant about his looks. He is very jealous about me though about alot of things. I don't go for looks though. Most of my boyfriends have been decent but great personalities. I did know this guy for a long time though so I will give him a chance to change, but if things don't I certainly won't waste anymore time with him.
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