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I am 19 years old, and I have been with my boyfriend (21) for the past five years. He has a full time job and I have been working part time while going to college (I am a sophomore).
We both want to move out together in the near future and have been talking a lot about starting a family. When I told him I still hadn't picked up my birth control this month, he told me not to worry about it becase at this juncture in our life he was ready to let whatever is going to happen just happen.
This has kind of thrown me for a loop, because I really want children and I want to have them at a fairly young age. However I also wanted to be settled before starting a family. Unfortunately I plan on getting a Master's degree, which will take at least another three or four years. I definitely don't want to wait that long, but I am worried about how my family and friends would take me getting pregnant now.
I guess my question is if it's irresponsible to have a child now, even though my boyfriend and I both work, go to college, and want to start a family? We still obviously want to finish up our plans, but want to add a baby to the mix.
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It is not the time to have a child when the two of you have yet to make a life-long commitment to each other.
The two of you really need to sit down and talk about this, possibly with the help of a counselor. It sounds right now like the two of you have very different images of what your life together would be like. Does he see you getting your Master's? Does he see you having a profession?
It is decidedly not the right time until you are ready.
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He knows my plans. However we both know there is never a "right" time and I think we both feel rushed. We're growing up so fast, and we both want children. I suppose we are afraid if it doesn't happen now, it never will. I don't know?
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