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Q: So, I am 18f. I have a boyfriend that is the sweetest guy I have ever met. He has a sense of humour, a great personality, and a loving heart. What I am wondering is how can I get him to try new things? I love upbeat music, dancing, sports, and art... where he loves things like hard metal, football, and horses. He hasn't said he loves me yet, but you can just tell how he feels when he is with me. I just have a hard time really connecting to him on a deeper level. Sure he is a sweet, awesome guy, but I still wonder if we are ever going to be able to connect on a different level, you know what I mean? I just think that when you find that one person and you truly love them, you should be able to connect with them, be able to tell them anything, and have that romantic spark in your relationship. I don't feel that I have that level of a relationship with him even though he is a great guy otherwise. I sometimes feel like I should be dating someone I can connect with on a deeper level. I am not going to just give him up though because I feel this way. What do you think I should do? Should I be staying with him and then if I ever find someone I can relate with better... choose that person? Please help me, thanks!
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You can't "change" a person. Some people like to try new things, others are set in their ways. Not that there is anything wrong with that. I am a big believer in opposites attracting as well. It just depends on the person. If you feel that you aren't connecting with him as much as you would like to, but he seems content with the way things going, maybe it is your restless spirit that makes you wonder.
You might have to take action and ask yourself what you want before "wonder" turns into "wander" though. The worst thing you could do is be unhappy or unsatisfied and never tell him. You can always mention that you would like to try new things with him because they are important to you and see how he takes it. I do believe that if you have to be comfortable with his choices of entertainment he should deal with yours to an extent as well. If he is unwilling to compromise on that (you are suggesting trying new things remember... not changing him) than maybe he isn't for you. Relationships are built on communication and trust. If he's unwilling to say... go see an art gallery with you for just a day... maybe you may want to rethink things
good luck
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He is very compromising, he would do most things I would like him to try and I would do the same for him, which makes it hard to figure if I should stay with him... he is content with the way things are going, I am too.. I am just wondering if there is someone better. I havn't found anyone else at all, so hmmm.. as you said: it must be my 'restless spirit'
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Full time Jerk. Part time writer, adventurer.
I get drunk and answer your questions with the cold truth.
It saves lives.
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