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Lately,no matter what I do goes wrong.I can't study,I've lost most of my friends,my boyfriend and I are going through a HUGE crisis and I think I may lose him...I've lost all of my positivity and now I see life as all dark and no light.I am aware this might be because of puberty.But I hate that I can't truly laugh and be happy,I can't get rid of my negativity...Why is this happening to me and what should I do to stop this?It's tearing me up inside...
Hey there,
I know how you feel. I am 18 and I've felt tired, exhausted, I've lost all my friends, and felt like life is a dark place as well. I do not think this has anything to do with puberty.
I believe this is happening, for you may be depressed by all the things that are troubling you in your life right now. When you are surrounded by what seems to be a ton of things that make you frown, it can bring you down quite a bit. To stop feeling this way, you have to find what truly makes you happy. Even though life may seem as though everything is horrible, there should always be one thing that will make you smile. It took me quite a while to find out what makes me feel happy and it could take a bit of time for you too, but to get there.. you have to give it a shot.
Smile when you are walking down the hall or a road (even if you don't feel like it). Smiling helps yourself feel good inside, it can make you want to actually smile, and when you seem positive, others will want to get to know you better. Listen to music that will make you want to get up and dance. Music is part of a persons soul that lightens your mood, soothes you, and if you sing along it will allow you to be creative. Your favorites will make you feel good inside :) Also, get out of your comfort zone. If you stay in whats is comfortable, you will never see or do all the great things you are missing. If you engage in what seems different, it will give you a sense of accomplishing something. Therefore, giving yourself gratitude. There may be an activity, place, or thing alone that will make you feel like you found what you've been needing.
Maybe you need to talk to a counsellor. Sometimes all we need is someone to talk to about our feelings. Counsellors are people who will help you sort things out on a confidential level. Do things that are positive and you will be positive. Whatever frustrates you, get away from it. Don't ever let little things get to you, you are strong. Whatever makes you happy, do it. Start a list of all the things you want to do to be happy right now, then do them. Plus, add a few things to your list that you've never done that you can do near to where you live.
Explore the new and discover yourself again. Get out there and do not be afraid to be yourself. When you set your mind to something, you can do it. There are things that will make you smile and laugh... and you will find them with an open heart and a little searching
(Rating: 5) thanks,this was very inspiring :) thank youuuu ^_^