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I think that I need some advice on whether or not I should stay with my boyfriend. I have been dating him for about a year and two months. (We broke up briefly in the beginning of August, but we decided to get back together, and are still together as of now. ) I'm very confused about my feelings for him. He is a really great guy and there are qualities about him that I don't see in anyone else that I know. That is part of the reason that I have stayed with him for so long; I don't know anyone else that I believe will treat me like he does, or be there for me like he is. He definitely gets me. He's funny, affectionate, and he is very loyal and kind. He gets along with my family and friends, which is very important to me. We both share a lot of morals, too. That was part of the reason that we started dating - we were friends first, but noticed qualities in each other that we couldn't see in any of our mutual friends and it progressed from there. We have been together for such a long time, and that is why it was very difficult to go from being so close to completely broken up. We broke up for a week, and whenever I saw him I wanted to cry. The reason we broke up is complicated. I'd been feeling like breaking up with him for a while now, but there was always some big event that the two of us were looking forward to that stopped me. (For example: I couldn't break up with him before senior prom, etc.) Then he told me he loved me on our one-year, and I just didn't feel right saying it back. It's incredibly difficult for me to think about breaking up with him again, but I know that deep down I shouldn't be with someone that I don't feel like I 100% love. I don't want to hurt him, and I know that he was really hurt when we broke up before. I was too. When we broke up, I felt so alone, and I felt like it was the wrong decision. I feel better now that we are together; I feel content. Whenever we hang out, I have a pretty good time. But there's still a part of me that wants to be free, and wants to search for a guy who is an even better match for me, and be able to do whatever I want in the mean time. I have no idea what I should do. I'm torn between staying with him and breaking up with him. Just the thought of us breaking up makes me cringe. What do you think I should do? Thank you. (link)
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I think you know what you should do.You don't feel like you love him in that way anymore and it isn't fair to lead him on.You're gonna feel alone at first because you are so used to him being there for you.After every break up no matter who does it both people normally feel alone.If the only reason you're staying with him is because you are afraid of being alone then that's not a good reason to stay with him.
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