Hello my name is Diamond, I am currently a third year psychology major. My passion in life is to be of aid to mankind in any way possible which why I aspire to become a Psychologist no matter what it takes. I find complete and utter joy in helping others through giving them advice or by simply being an open ear for someone you just need to talk to or express your feelings to. I love to make others happy in anyway possible, it brings joy to my heart like nothing in this world. I have given advice to a large amount of people, usually people I barley know. The people I meet tend to open up to me and share their feelings and/or problems whether big or small. I have been the ears for many people who just want someone to talk to,when they feel no one else is there to listen or atleast cares enough to hear what they have to say. I have been a shoulder to cry on and I must say it is very fulfilling to have people see this sort of security and comfort in me. I am open to any questions, I am open to listen to anyone that is feeling alone or scared, I care about everyone in this world even if I have yet to meet them, I know that every human being is special,unique, and beautiful in their own way and I just want to be there for anyone who doesn't know or believe this. I want to install the importance of positive thinking into everyone I encounter in my lifetime. I am even here for those who aren't going through any particular hardship but just wants advice. Advice is always good because it is always good to have a second persons opinion to weigh your options and decisions even if you choose to use the advice or not. I am looking forward to your questions,conversations, or anything you would like. I am just a message/ e-mail away. Please do not hesitate to contact me. You will never be ignored or simply forgotten about.
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Me and my bf have been together for a while and we would like to have sex soon...and that's where the story starts...
A year ago,we were in a relationship for 8 months...but then he let me down and I was really dying inside but I didn't let it show.it's a long story really.Now,a year has passed and the old flame has started burning,for both him and me...he really changed and is treating me right...but because I was hurting the way I did,I always think he doesn't love me and wants to use me...even though he never tried anything without my permission...I love him a lot and I wanna give in to my desire but I'm so afraid of him leaving me when he gets what he wants.We have talked about this a lot and he told me a million times he's not like that (which I believe because he had a lot of chances which he didn't take because he knew I'd be hurt by his actions)but still I can't get myself to trust him,but I know I love him.I'm scared of being hurt.Why am I feeling like this? (link)
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Hello, the way you are feeling is totally expected and understandable, you have every right to be slightly paranoid because he gave you a reason to make you think that way unfortunately. So now in your brain it is hard wired to associate those negative feelings he made you feel with him. The good thing is that you are discussing it with him so that he will know why exactly it is that you are slightly afraid to have sex with him, so he knows how upset he made you. I think by you discussing this with him he can understand just how upset his actions made you and if he cares enough about you he will know not to do it again as to salvage your feelings. I have been in this situation before in which it took me a long time to trust my current boyfriend of 1 year to not leave me or hurt me but eventually after time passed he showed me that I had nothing to worry about through his actions and the way he cared for me. I honestly think It will take time for you to be comfortable and trust him again because even though what he did happened in the past it still stuck with you because it hurt you so much. My advice would be to wait it out until you feel comfortable with him and begin to trust him again before you have sex, because it is going to take some time. Another route would be if you feel like he has showed you enough to where you believe he loves you with all his heart and wouldn't dare hurt you again, you should give him a chance and have sex with him, if he seems worthy enough you should because everyone deserves a second chance when they have proved that they have learned their lesson at least. Having sex with him might even strengthen your relationship, because first of all it would bring you closer physically and emotionally, and after you guys have sex when you are still together and he hasn't hurt you it will take all those negative thoughts of him just using you away. You can go with any route I discussed, just do what feels right for you and whatever makes you happy and comfortable. I hope this helped, and if you need any further advice on any of the routes you chose to take or what to do after you have made your decision please don't hesitate to contact me :)..Good luck with everything I'm sure everything will work out for the best!
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thank you for answering my question! I think I will give him a chance and have sex with him,because of all you said.I guess it's normal for me to be scared but I think it'll just go away as time passes.And thanks for wishing me good luck I'll need it. :D
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