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As long as I could remember I've always had trouble showing emotions, When someone gives me a gift I don't really know how to show appreciation or say thank you in a way I appreciate it. When someone hurts themselves, I have this nasty tendency to laugh...not because I think it's funny but I don't know how to react. If someone greets me with a hello..I act awkward and smile and say "Hi" under my breath which most of the time you can't even hear it. In a crowded area, I'm always the one to sit nearest to the door looking for a way out and I would prefer not to talk to people and I have friends but most of the time I don't really feel like seeing them instead I'd rather just do my own thing and talk over the computer or through text messages. I don't know what is wrong with me, I have social anxiety and I have depression but I'm on medication for it and I feel great! but I still don't know why I act this way...Sometimes I question myself if I have some sort of autism but I'm not sure of the signs or symptoms. Can anyone explain to me what they think? (Preferably people who actually know what they are talking about...)
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I don't think that I would go as far as to say that you have autism mainly because you recognize all your weird social patterns. I would just say your socially awkward. From what you say it seems like this has been something that you have been struggling with your entire life. Well old habbits die hard. The anti depressents you are on are just going to regulate your moods. There not going to magically make you into a whole new person socially. This is something you are going to have to do on your own. There is no medication tthat a doctor can give you to make you speak up and say hello in a peppy manner. That is something that you have to hold yourself accountable for. Your going to ultimatley have to go out of your comfort zone if you want to see changes. Its going to be awkward as fuck at times, but that sums up life really. Just get in the habbit of being more friendly. Speak up. Be confident. And if your not a confident person, maybe you should work on gaining some.
But don't think that everyone has to be bubbly and friendly. You seem to be more of an introvert, and that's totally normmal!! A lot of people prefer to keep more to them selves. Nothing wrong with that. Just make sure that you do have the ability to be outgoing and friendly.

And as far as laughing when people get hurt, so does the rest of the population. Havnt you ever watched americas funniest home videos? The important thing is that you also make sure that they are okay.

Hope I helped!

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