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my bfs little girl has been with us for the last month. her mother dropped her off one week and said she will see her when she can. the little girl says her mom doesnt love her, that she wont see her, and her mom rather hang out with her bf then her. what do i tell her, its all true but of course i am not saying it is. i tell her that her mom still loves her but what else can i say to make her feel better without getting her hopes up that she will see her again. cause right now she isnt going to for awhile
my bf is getting full custody because this is stupid her getting child support and not seeing her child at all.
Bless your heart. How horrible. Have you considered adopting her?
I really think it's best to be as honest as you can, without hurting her.
I would say something to the effect like, " your mommy loves you very much, but she is having a very hard time. Your mommy doesn't like herself much right now and is trying to figure out what she wants in life," which is true or she'd be with her child. Then give that little girl as much love and attention that is humanly possible. Love heals and your love along with some honesty will and a long way
But don't ever lie to a child! They know, in their intuitive little selves, what's up. Talk to her openly and honestly but in 5 year old terms. And by all means, get full custody! Mom
doesn't deserve it..
Please feel free to email me if you need further advice.
God bless you for your courage and selflessness and for loving her. She will in time acknowledge you as mommy!
One more thing, validate her feelings too! Let her know you'd feel the same way. That you don't blame her for thinking the way she does!
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Thanks for the wonderful advice, it helped out alot. the little girl is happier here she gets what she wants and everything she needs plus she has ton of family here to love her. itll just take a bit for her to get used to
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