Q: 19/f
I was going to go away for college until I found out the day after I graduated that I was adopted. I decided I wanted to stay home for a little while. I do not attend community college or junior college. I am in the university. So, there are dorms. As of right now, I am living at home. I live with my mother and my grandparents. Although I love them very much, there are some issues with living with them. For one, my grandparents are older and this IS their home. They have their habits, which I cannot break. For one, my aunt (who lives across the street) comes here EVERY NIGHT to watch soap operas with my grandmother. They are not in a private room watching these quietly. They watch it VERY LOUD in the living room.
Recently, I fixed my room to make it more adult-like. But, that was not the solution. My mom spends all her time inside of my room listening to music and playing on the computer. I asked her if she could please relocate the computer to another area of the house. I would not mind it because I have a laptop. But, having the main computer of the house located in my room is a problem. Not only is that the computer everyone uses, but my cousins (who live across the street) come over all the time to use my printer, when the internet is down, etc. That room is NOT mine. It is like a community room where the privacy is handed to me after midnight... sometimes.
I am on a full scholarship at my school. Therefore, I do not pay anything. In fact, I get money back. This is usually about $3000 per semester. I try to use my money wisely and not spend it on things that I can't really afford. Don't get me wrong, I like to treat myself too, I'm just saying I'm not spending money all over the place. Aside from that, i do work part time. I make about $1000 a month. I cannot work more than that because I am a student and my priority is school. I also need time to exercise and go to club meetings and society meetings at school. As far as a dorm goes, I cannot afford it. They will not give me extra aid to go get a dorm. I would have to take out loans, which my parents are completely and totally against. I'm not too big a fan of loans either, unless there is no other way.
My other option would be renting an apartment. But, realistically, with the way the economy is, I don't think there's a way. What if I don't keep my job? All my money would go to the apartment and I wouldn't be able to do ANYTHING (like eat). lol. There has to be something I'm missing here. Living in my house could be an option if I had a shed or something... but I don't. I came from a school where everyone was really rich. I've always had less money than they did and I'm not exactly poor. But, these people were RICH, like millionares. I need an option here, because living with my parents isn't cutting it. This is not a place for a student. If I were older and working, and had nothing to do when I got home, then maybe yeah. But, when I get home, I need quiet to study. I need to unwind because I'm juggling school, work, and my certification to become a fitness instructor. I'm a little older now and I need my own space.
Going away to college is not an option anymore. Everything is here: family, friends, boyfriend, work, and organizations that will find me a job in the future. I love my school and I can't leave my dog here either. I know it sounds crazy, but I've had him for a while and there's just no way that I can leave the dog. lol.
If you can offer me advice, there HAS to be something I'm overlooking. Please only answer if you have a real, genuine idea for me. Please don't say look into cheaper housing or find a roomate. No one here is willing to room and I refuse to room with a stranger. I just need an idea to have more privacy and my own space.