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Q: I have a new girlfriend like im kinda scared cause my ex told me she loved me b4 and she will never cheat on me but she did so like its very hard 4 me to trust my new girlfriend because of what happened with my ex but i really really love my new girlfriend but i always question her about like do she like dis or that boy or is she doing something she doesnt suppose to(cheating) and i really dont like her to go out cause i think she would cheat on me and then it scares me cause like she is not a virgin and her cousin is like always trying to make her do stuff like drink and i dont like her to drink cause who knows what would she do when shes drunk what if she sleep with another guy :( so she stopped i really love her i just really want to trust her so bad and she knows i dont trust her and it hurts her :( please help Sami i would be so greatful
Relationships are built on trust and I realize that it is very difficult to trust someone when you have been betrayed in the past, but forgive and forget. If your current girlfriend loves you then she won't cheat, if she cheats on you then she isn't worth it and you deserve better than that. The best thing for you to do is let her know about your fears but don't crowd her and always assume she's cheating, the more you try to control her the more likely it is that she is going to get frustrated with you and either break up with you or cheat, simple as that. Don't tell her NOT to do things, she may be doing as you say now, but she will begin to resent you as the relationship goes on and it will not lend well. Really you need to keep the lines of communication open, let her know your fears, how you feel about what she does, etc. Also why don't you go out with her, this way you can be with her and not be stressing about it. It seems like her cousing really doesn't care about her and just wants her to party, which isn't good company to keep if you ask me.
I hope everything works out for you guys, have faith in her, she may surprise you, not every girl is a cheater.
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