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so im 17/m and recently became friends with this girl whos 15.now i know from other friends of both of us that she really really likes me .we've been talking,mostly through the cellphone and she kinda hints to me that she likes me at times.well the problem is that ,even though she is cute and a really nice friend,i don't really like her and do not want to start a more serious relationship with her.now i need to like let her know that im not that into her but at the same time i don't want to jepordise our friendship.so any advice:)?

Sometimes... When you're nice and friendly, members of the opposite sex take it the wrong way. That's not your fault. However, if you are flirting with her, even a little bit, cut that out.

If you really just want to be friends... Try explaining to her that you aren't interested in a relationship right now. (You don't have to say not interested in a relationship with HER in particular.) You may also want to mention that you value her friendship and would never want to do anything to jeapordize it. The important thing is that you let her know you care, AS A FRIEND... And that you're not interested in any girl RIGHT NOW.

And... If she doesn't get it... You have to make a decision. Cut and bail or spell it out for her. Cutting and bailing is hard... Because you can't help but feel crummy when you avoid someone. Spelling it out is harder because, even if you really think about what you're going to say, even if you're super nice... She might get her feelings hurt anyway. If that happens... Try not to beat yourself up. Rejection sucks. But... Everyone gets rejected at some point. We all get over it and move on, so will she.

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(Rating: 5) thanks friend..really helped clear my thoughts on what to do
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