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okay, soo i'm 15 years old and i've never had a boyfriend before.. I find being my age and never having a boyfriend is kind of lame. haha.
I've always been really shy, so talking to guys is something i've never really been able to do.
All my friends have had boyfriends but they're all not shy. i've always been shy so coming out of my shell is hard, the only time guys really talk to me is to get the answers on a worksheet, or to ask me for a pencil! anyways, I like this guy but I have no idea what to do to get him to like me too. I don't have any classes with him anymore but I do see him in the hallways sometimes. when we did have a class together he was always really nice to me, he would notice everything about me like if I got a new pair of jeans or other little things and he would always TRY to talk to me but I was too shy to hold a conversation with him.
WHAT DO I DO?!
what are some ways I can get guys to notice me? I don't want to get of highschool and have no experience with guys.
How can I come out of my shell at school?
I neeeed help :(
First, I would like to tell you a story...
Once upon a time, there was a girl named Melissa. When Melissa was in highschool she felt like she was 'behind' everyone else. While her friends were dating and hanging out with their boyfriends... She was at home reading a book.
Melissa was shy and self-concious. She worried about how she looked and felt, even when she looked her best, that she was not as pretty as her friends... Or as smart... Or as funny... Or as fun... And she worried what people thought of her. And she worried that she would never, never have a boyfriend.
Melissa did a lot of things to 'fit in.' Some of those things were kind of stupid... Or dangerous. (Not saying YOU ever would, just telling a story.) After a while... Melissa realized that she didn't need to do anything to 'fit in.' That while she may not be a supermodel, or a genius, or ever win the Nobel Peace Prize... She was beautiful, intelligent, and a good person. And she decided that anyone that didn't think so was obviously a moron... And who wants to be friends with a bunch of morons?
Melissa decided that it was more important for her to like herself than to be liked by others; even members of the opposite sex. And when Melissa learned to like herself... She wasn't quite so shy or self-concious... And people just...liked her... Without her even trying.
The end.
I'm not trying to sound condescending... The story you just read is my own and it's 100% true. Not very long ago, I was, probably, very much like you. I know what it's like trying to overcome shyness... And worrying that you'll be alone, 'or behind,' if you don't.
There isn't a quick, easy answer to overcoming shyness... Or to getting a boy to like you. The only REAL answer is: focus on liking yourself. Once you do... You'll be more confident. You'll be less shy. And you'll realize that plenty of people like you all ready... And many of those people may be boys :)
You may be asking, "How do I do that?" There isn't a quick, easy answer to that either. But I can tell you where to start. Go, right now, and look in the mirror. Think of something that you all ready like about yourself...
(Rating: 5) wow that was really good thanks :)