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Hi Im Daintree,
Born in the 60's means I have had a great life full adventures and mishaps and experiences and direction. I am 5th of 6 sibblings. Now I am married 24 yrs with 2 teenage boys 17 & 16 yrs and a son 8yrs
Boys are definately challenging but I am up to the task. We own a business here 20 yrs I am a jack of all trades master of none. If you want something done you got to do it yourself. I pride my self with the fact that when I left home I never asked my parents for any assistants of any kind esspecially money. I struggled and now I am my own success story.
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Age: 47
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I have an issue with alcohol, no im not an alcoholic but i truly HATE alcohol. My mom is a recovering alcoholic, and ive been through so much because of alcohol. So many bad things that have happend in my life, are because of alcohol to the point where i hate anything to do with alcohol. Ive had my fair share of alcohol, but i realize i cannot drink it because i get too carried away.
Well, my boyfriend is in college and when he goes out, i get really upset. And i know he is in college, and that is what he is going to do to spend time with his friends. I know it is ridiculous for me to care so much, but i do. I bring the issues i have with alcohol into my relationship, and its a problem.
Any advice on how to cope with this? Tips that i can use to get over it?
Thanks
I totally get where your coming from, a social drink gone wrong can turn ugly bringing pain and misery to the drinker and the people close to them. If one drinks to passout stage that's alcholism sorry but it's true this is why alchoholics are in so much denial they think it's o.k. or under control. if you experience black outs that's the result of brain damage. Having said all that
you can't change people you can only change yourself.
There is an organisation in Australia called
Al-anon which specificly targets the people who's lives are affected by the person with the problem of drink be it a few or too many. they teach people how to live your life around the alcholic or heavy drinker to gain greater meaning to their own life. If you cannot deal with the life of a drinker then look for a boyfriend who does not drink or has a small intake such as special occassions only. An athlete fits this catagory. the more you hassle your boyfriend about his consumption the more justified he feels to have another drink and another. He's living his life his way so you find a way to live your life your way. you really need a guy who can go without drinking to meet your standards. A drinker will never make you happy because you carry too much bagage from your mother's past drinking days. It won't be any different with him than it was with her believe me. I hope this is of some help Good luck
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thank you very much :)
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