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Hello! My name is Paige. I have been through plenty of experiences, so i think i give good advice. You can ask me anything from family stuff to sex. If i dont know the answer to something, i will try my hardest to find the information. I will NEVER reject questions people leave in my inbox, in fact i LOVE getting them! IF YOU SEND ME AN INBOX MESSAGE PLEASE LEAVE YOUR EMAIL IF YOU ARE AN UNREGISTERED USER! I wont sugar coat anything, i will be straight forward and truthful with you. Talk to me in my forum!
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I'm 22/f. I need some unbiased help with this.
I've been involved with this guy for four years. To sum the whole mess up, he doesn't treat me well psychologically, and I'm turning into someone I don't like as a result of having to play mind games with him, and as a result of trying to get him to treat me right.
At this point, it's an addiction, and I need to get out of this relationship.
The problem is that it IS an addiction. I've tried to break up with him about five times in the past two months. I was so close last time, but when he said "If you do this, you'll lose me completely," I cracked and said we could keep trying.
I don't know why, he's not even a good friend to me. I have no fear of being alone - I'm alone anyway. We had some good times, and I suppose we had some kind of connection, but I can't even open up to him at this point, he's hurt me so much. He called me yesterday, and I had nothing to talk about with him.
I guess I want to know if anyone has had experience with a toxic relationship like this. If you have, how did you get out of it? If you haven't gotten out of it, what's your plan? I need inspiration. Or something.
Thanks, everyone.
I know exactly what you are going through. Its been four years, and i crack everytime i try to get out of it. Best sexual chemistry ive ever had. It is addiction and because of this i need it, i crave it. I know its mentally not good for me, and the mind games drive me crazy..however its just too hard. Ive talked to friends, and they cannot help because they really dont understand what i am going through.
The only way you will be able to get out of this relationship is if you and ONLY you finally realize that its really not good. You are the one who has to realize this, because you know your friends are right about him but if YOU dont have an "ah ha" moment then youll never be able to get out of it.
I cannot give you advice to get out of it, however i can talk to you about it if you need too.
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(Rating: 5) Good to know I'm not alone. I broke up with him two days ago. Hardest thing I've ever done, and most painful...I added your screen name to my buddylist, I'll IM you next time you're on. Thank you.