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So i'm 16 and i've been with this guy for six months and we've done the 3rd base thing. Like he fingers me and i've given him a hand job. So like i of course always make him finish but he's never made me orgasm. Like i've been closish....i think....but i always feel like i'm gonna pee, i've been able to orgasm on my own and it doesnt feel like that and i dont know why he cant make me, even though he does he same thing i do, clit stimulation. The other day he was really working hard and it always feels really good, its not that it doesn't but idk i can't finish. Maybe i'm afraid to infront of him? but i dont think so cause i really want to, i even direct him sometimes. Well anyway yeah he was working real hard and i knew he was getting tired so i faked it.....but i feel so bad about it...i know a lot of girls do it but i feel so dishonest i've never lied to him. He told me once he'd never want me to fake it and that he'd get mad at me if i did cause he wants to please me....so i'm kinda scared to tell him that i did...he thinks he's made me finish twice but he's never been able to, i dont even remember faking it in the past......i dont know what i should do or why i cant orgasm

okay yeah i definetely would not tell him you faked it. you never do that. it would hurt his ego and probably make him too self concious if you were to do it again. as for the orgasm part. i think a part of it may be that you are thinking too much. just let your mind go and think about all the sensations that are coming out of it. also since you know how to bring your self to an orgasm, you should try directing him on what too do. for instance telling him to speed up or slow down or touch certain parts. that will help him learn. also reassure him from time to time if he is doing something well. let him know tthat it feels good. you guys are still young so you have a lot of learning too do. dont worry that hes not an expert on making a girl cum.

so too recap:
1. dont tell him you faked it
2. dont worry about having an orgasm, just go with it...mind over matter.
3. help him out in making you orgasm.

good luck and i hope i helped!

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