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"Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let the pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place."



I'm an optimist. I can find the beauty in anything. I'm creative. I love spontaneity, peace, & parties. I'm the farthest thing from shy. There's not one person on this earth that I don't care about. I like deep conversations, change, & random acts of kindness. Every emotion I feel is ten times as strong as yours. I have alot of empathy for other people. I'm real open minded & liberal. All I want to do is make at least one person's life a little easier. :D

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16, F

Hey :)

I noticed that you're really optimistic, and I admire you so much for that even though I've never met you. I always try to look on the bright side of things, like you, and I always try to remember the good aspects of my life. Like every teenager, I've faced hard times, stress, and I think at one point, mild depression (I'd cry myself to sleep every single night for a week), but now I've realized that I've come to this world for a reason and life is simply too short to be sad.

I was just wondering... how do you stay happy and look at the bright side all the time? I mean, compared to most people, I'm happy, but sometimes I do get sad, like yesterday I cried because I was stressed out. I have always wanted to meditate so that my emotions aren't so strong and have desired the ability to step back from situations and see the good in it, but I still cry sometimes.

What do you do when you're faced with a bad situation? How do you escape? One of my greatest interests include dream interpretation and philosophy. I once read that dreams are a passage into the fourth dimension so this is how I escape. Do you meditate or do yoga or anything? Do you have any suggestions for how I can be happy more often and not be really happy and then be really sad?

Thank you for your time! :)

P.S.- I saw your answer about three beautiful things in the world. More people should be like you. You've inspired me.

Awww, thank you so much! You seriously just made my day. :D

You sound like you're very strong. Depression, no matter how "mild" it may seem, is one of the most difficult things to overcome. I used to have very severe depression myself, but I'm allll better now!

I just can't see the bad in anything honestly. I can, but I just force myself to ignore it. I just don't see the point in focusing on the bad when there's so much good out there.
Okay. The next time you catch yourself complaining or say something anything but positive, stop yourself dead in the thought or sentence. Change it to something positive, like what a pretty day it is, how cute someone's outfit is, how glad you are that you have no homework in a certain subject, how thankful you are for something/someone, etc.

Everyone gets sad, sweetie. There would be something very wrong if you didn't. It's just your perspective on things. I've had to work very hard to change mine. I see the good in people, simply because I wouldn't want someone to look at me and pick out every flaw possible. I see the good in every situation just because I've learned to take the time to look for it, because it's always there. You can over-analyze and worry about a situation for hours, but in the end, all you've resulted in doing is caused yourself twice as much stress, tears, and regrets. The second you find yourself getting sad, just tell yourself to stop.

Nope, I don't do yoga or anything. I totally don't have the flexibility for that. I'm faced with a bad situation everyday. I live with an abusive father, but I would never let it show. I escape by helping other people. I want to inspire someone. I want to change someone's life, to make a difference. That's why I come on this site. People like you honestly keep me the way I am. This is my escape, along with music. When I'm upset, I listen to some really calming music. For me, it's like, John Mayer or the Dave Matthews Band. I'll go for a walk, read quotes, draw, paint, color. I love painting and drawing. It can really take your mind off of things. You should really try it. There's no rules, instructions, nothing. You're free to do whatever you like. That's why I love it so much. Quotes are also really good. When you find one that fits whatever situation or emotion you're feeling, it lets you know that you're not alone in the world, that there's someone else out there you can relate to.

Is there something you're really passionate about? Do that. If there's nothing you can think of, you have to find something. That's what you need to do. I love helping. So, that's what I do. Making people happy makes me happy. :D

"Do not place happiness in things outside of yourself; people move on and cities burn. Instead, try to find joy in yourself. Find passion in simple things. Look in the mirror and see the most beautiful human being of all staring back at you. Do what you love and do not let another manipulate your peace of mind. Above all, learn to love yourself. Learn to be okay when you are alone. Realize that nothing worthwhile comes overnight."

I'm not sure if I helped you too much, but I hope I did! :D

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(Rating: 5) Aww, you helped me SO much! I just went through a really stressful situation and you remind me of all the good in life. You should be really proud of yourself for moving on with life and not letting your abusive father get to you. I hope you inspire others as you have me. :) ♥
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