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This may seem like an age old question, but how do you find your perfect guy? Of course I know that 'nobody's perfect', but there must be someone who is near perfect for everybody. Someone who loves you for who you are, treats you with respect, isn't afraid to be themselves, laughs with you, wouldn't change you, would do anything for you, holds you in their arms, and is just a good friend who makes you feel special inside. I know this sounds like a lot, but there must be a guy out there who can fit some of this and is meant to be mine.
I've never met any guy I have fallen in love with, I have never dated because all the guys I know are jerks or players, I live in a little town, and I don't know where I can go from here.
I am actually cute, but I don't seem to attract many guys. Being myself does not seem to work either.
My life is kind of hard, and you know how you can get the feeling that something is missing in your life and you need someone, some guy, to fill that hole within your heart because nothing else is working? Well, I am positive I need to find that someone. I don't know if fate will oneday come and he will be standing at my doorstep, or offering to take me out for dinner, or on my college sports team... but how .. how do you find that one guy, know that he is single, and get him to notice you? ~17f
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I totally understand you. I myself have felt the same way many many times however the advice/opinion that i can sa to you is this
the question of how to find the perfect guy/girl is a question of questions, everyone asks but know one really knows i say this...
how to not find thr wrong guy or better yet how to avoid the wrong guy/girl
I really think avoiding the wrong person will help you find the right person.
I strongly recommend to do what i did and that was to keep a strong mental note of the thinkgs you really do not want to deal with and if its hard to keep your mental note then write it down and read it ...read it alot...so much it becomes your law. if you do not want a guy that curses write it down, dont want a player? write it down dont want a flirt? write it down down want a person who just wants to spread your legs? write it down...get the pic? what you really want to do is to train yourself. Dont want a nerd? a talkative guy? sensative? lazy? brown hair? tall? short? write and note it down and read and read read it over and over again avoid..learn to avoid the guys that you do not want in your life that you fell will not be worth it to you because you have a goal and plan. im not saying be mean and rude insult people but i am saying is to be street smart. I strongly suggest to always but limits to yourself..for example if you find a guy that you find thats interesting and cute and he wants to or asks you to do something you do not feel or want to do ...dont put limits if you dont like to go around robbing banks ...dont do it. if he likes to have one nights stands or do sexual favors and wants some in return don go for it limits yourself tell yourself and teach yourself not to go desperate and not to be hopeless, you have tons of time to accomplish things in life to set goals and reach them as you wait for your life companion be a winner a champion always remembering that life is hard but compare to what?
being yourself will never be the wrong thing...even if youre a wierd person the guy will always see you for who you are and you will be who you are not what he wants you to be. I strongly believe the right person should always bring out the best qualities in you and should teach you to be patient, calm, and make you feel relaxed and loved. till you meet him learn to be a young mature woman if you ever wanted to learn how to cook nows your time, ever wanted to learn to roller blade? nows the time ever wanted to learn how to do the dishes, laundry etc,etc do it nows the time...now dont go crazy on me and do things you know you are not suppose to do.
I hope this helps if it doesnt let me know
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I totally know what you mean. Know what you don't want in a guy-eliminate them. And while single, do all the things I can, while I can. Thanks
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