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During the summer, I met this guy. And for months we have been hanging out, and our relationship is growing very strong. The problem is, I'm 14, and he's 17.. And he's leaving for university next year, so we've decided that we're not going to become boyfriend and girlfriend, just be a couple.. Well, the thing is, he wants to go all the way with me.. And I don't know if i'm ready! I'm still a virgin and I don't know how I can be sure that I trust him enough, to know he's not just using me for a piece of "skin" please help!! (link)
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Well to be honest you will never know...only time and alot of patience will help you determine your next moves. I dont agree with him asking you to do something you dont feel or think or want or should do. I do beleive that if a guy really cares for you and is mature he will keep integrity and respect and honor towards you and your family ...why family well many people forget how important it is to have someone who is conscious towards the family of his love it represents just how much respect is important and how much he will see you in his future but also how he feels sees them in his future. I can tell you this ...Your are NOT ready!!! the biggest mistake for you to make is to think that he is and will be the only guy/man in your life...i can clearly remember people with more experience talk about how in the good old days girls would see their daddys as the main man in their life and how they would base their ideal future significant other on them...obviously times have changed but what will still remain is the respect you also have to give towards your dad or your mom. I also see it this other way if you have sex or do have a SEXual relationship via vaginal, oral, manual, anal relationship with this guy it will be just a random person...you wont see him again and is that really what you want? to experience a sexual relationship with a person who will not give you what you deserve???--> a dedicated, devoted, loyal, loving, respecting man?? I dont beleive he respects you if he did he would not ask you to "go all the way" and i dont see him caring about you, your feelings or your body or else he wouldnt ask you to again " go all the way" You can never trust him because hes not trusting you...say what!!!??? let me explain if he would trust you then he wouldnt put pressure on you..again let me expalin...when we love a person with an honest heart we never ask them to do anything that would effect them or ourselves, a good example is our parents when we trust them we dont mistreat them nore do we expect them to mistreat us but when you trust someone you will not do anything or ask anything that would cause a heart ache. I hope im not confusing you.. ive said this before you can always have sex tomorrow..today may ot be the right time. Sex is so much pressured these days and i think it needs to stop sex is useless if you have someone who is taking away from you that experice that you will only be able to live once and that person has no feelings for what hes about to do has no heart of the change that he will inflict on your life once you have sex and he leaves you..alone. think about what you want to do, then think again before you do it, but think about before...not after.
I hope this helps if not let me know
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Thank you so much. You have definitely made a difference in how I plan to handle this. I will seriously consider what you've told me. Thanks again! You were a great help. This is a big decision for me, and i'm glad there are people like you who understand my situation.
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