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So I'm the type of person that says "I love you" a lot. Like, my family's as dysfunctional as can be, but I always make sure to say it before I leave the house or hang up the phone. I say it to my best of friends whenever I say "bye," and whenever even an acquaintance makes me laugh or does something nice for me, I'm always like, "holy crap, I love you," and I mean it.
I met this guy in late September and we went on our first date less than two weeks after meeting. Because we talked nearly nonstop over text and IM, we were super, super comfortable with each other by the second date. We saw each other unofficially for four weeks and have been officially dating for nearly three weeks. This is my first serious relationship (I'm 16) though he's had a few girlfriends before me (he's 18).
I'm not one to overcomplicate love (obviously). You don't have to love everything about a person to love them. This guy is the sweetest-- he compliments me constantly, isn't afraid of PDA (romantic kisses goodbye, not makeout sessions), would do anything for me, and would never want to intentionally hurt me. He's not "in it to hit it" either-- he knows I'm abstaining until marriage and he's fine with that, and we didn't even kiss until the third date.
What I'm saying is, I know I love him, but is there a clear difference in the love you feel inside when loving someone as a person and loving someone romantically? He makes me happy, and I want to spend every second talking to him and just being with him. And I could not STAND to see him with another girl. But what qualifies love to be romantic rather than loving someone as a person? Have I already crossed it?
Also, how soon is "too soon" to say it? I know his family says it a lot too, and he says it to his family in front of me, so I know he's not uncomfortable saying it. But I don't want to freak him out.
Any advice whatsoever appreciated, or past experiences :) Thanks so much!
i get your point but you guys have only been dating for three weeks. you sound like you really like him as a person and you love the way he makes you feel but usually it takes a little longer to love someone. since people are complicated it takes time to completely get to know them 100%. if it makes you feel any better, it took my boyfriend 4 months to say it to me, and honestly, im glad he waited because he was sure when he said it to me and it made it so much more special. i say you at least give it a couple months, you don't wanna do anything to ruin the relationship and you definetly don't want to put him on the spot or force words out of his mouth that he doesn't mean.
(Rating: 5) :) youre right, thanks.