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I have 2 questions to ask you.
1.) I have 2 ulcers on the inside of my upper lip. My bf told me that they came out because of kissing, is it true that if you frenchkiss you can have ulcers? (he doesn't have ulcers in his mouth, so they couldn't be spread from his mouth).
2.) Yesterday my bf fingered me for the first time. He was with the clothes on and he didn't touch his penis, so he couldn't have sperm on his fingers right? His nails were a bit long and he hurt me and also he didn't wash his hands before!!
Next time i'll tell him to cut his nails and wash his hands. What do you think? He only did it once! (link)
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Ulcers can happen for a lot of reasons, some of which are: stress, biting your cheeks/lips, lacking certain vitamins, certain medications, etc. They are very common, particularly in children and young people.
Chances are it had nothing to do with the kissing. However, be aware that ulcers are open sores, so if your boyfriend has any nasty bugs floating around in his system you are at increased risk if you kiss him while you've still got them.
Good idea with the short nails and clean hands!! If he didn't touch his penis, and he didn't ejaculate through his pants and then touch them, there was so sperm on his hands. It's a good thing you are thinking about this - and it's always best to try to think things through before you actually get ito the heat of the moment!
It's worth considering why he hurt you - was it just the long nails, or something else? It's common for fingering to be quite sore the first few times, but there are things that can be done to minimize any discomfort. After all, these things are supposed to feel good! Examples are making sure you are really ready (physically and emotionally), using lube, etc.
I wish you the best.
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