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16/f so i have this friend (she's 17) and i used to consider her as my best friend but now im not sure anymore?
it seems like shes always lying to me. like she was dating this guy for about 6 months and told me she had sex with him ( i didnt ask her to tell me but she always told me everything) and it was her 'first time'.
but then they broke up a few weeks later and about a month later (2 weeks ago) she told me that it was all a lie & that she never had sex with him BUT recently had sex with two 26 year old guys ( for the first time). & when i told her that it's crazy to have sex with two 26 year old guys (for the first time) you meet in a bar she got all mad and didnt wanna talk about it anymore. like she doesnt even care that its illigal or that she lost her virginity to some stranger. & she also told me that she likes one of them now. i think the whole thing is so slutty & dirty yet she keeps talking about it but i know that when i tell her that its just stupid she'll get mad etc and i hate fighting. she's changed so much & i dont know what to do anymore
She's really not a very good friend, currently. Don't get me wrong, it's not an irreparable situation, but it will definitely require some cooperation. You should sit your friend down in a really controlled kind of way. And make sure you use the sweetest and most friendly tones of voice that you can while you ask her to tell you what's really wrong and how you two can be a bit closer. If she says something unreasonable or begins to bring up all of the *bad* decisions that she's made recently, you really just have to tell her flat out that you don't agree with the decisions that she's made and that it's becoming difficult for you to cope with. If she can't respect you being the bigger person and just sitting her down to explain what's going through your mind, then she honestly isn't worth any more effort. If she can't understand your point of view, then the answer is no, she isn't your real friend. But don't give up until you give communication a try! Good luck!
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