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THIS WILL BE LONG.
I guess I'll start at the beginning.

We met in year 7.
Her computer wasn't working so she was seated
next to me. Neither of us wanted to sit together,
I though she was a total nerd(she had glasses)
and she thought I was a total FREAK.

But we got talking and we became best friends.
Lets call her Kelly.
She was in all my classes, we slept over each
others houses a fair bit(well mostly I slept over
hers - I have A LOT of family issues which I'd
rather not get into)

We hung out all the time.
Then year 8 rolled around, we were still friends,
cause we were in all the same classes together.

I started getting into drugs REALLY badly, I was
off my face just about everyday of school. I got
really into sex. I was such a slut, I slept with
soo many people...

I could tell she was trying to distance herself
from me, but how could she? We were "BFFL" We
spent so much time together...

I spun OUT OF CONTROL in the holidays between yr
8 & 9...
I was high everyday. I had so much sex, I drank,
and I shot up, and I snorted... Nothing and no
one could stop me.

I didn't realize how much I was hurting Kelly...
Until year 9(this year) came around.

We're in one class together.... and we never
hungout together at recess and Lunch anyway,
because I don't like her friends and she doesn't
like my friends.

We just kinda of stopped talking.
I miss her so much.
She's tried to help me, but I just shut her out &
everyone says she's being a control freak & I
think I may have said that too.

I want to be friends with her.
I love her, she's my BEST FRIEND int the whole
world, well... she was.

I'm quitting drugs for her.
one by one... but I'm going to do it.

When I told her I was quitting drugs for her, she
was just like "Oh yeah? that's nice" And walked
away. Like she didn't even care.

What can I say to tell her that I'm getting my
life back on track to be friends with her again
when she wont even talk to me??

Please I'm so desperate for help.
I'm really, really sorry this was so long.

xx

well, I'm not sure if your a boy or a girl but it seems like you had a lot of problems in life and that's what steered you towards drugs and sex? coming from a girl we don't believe words until we see the actions that follow. so, show her your going to quit them, don't just tell her. she is distancing herself from you for reasons i can name left and right. maybe she's afraid you'll try and get her into them too. maybe she doesn't want her parents seeing you like this. maybe she just doesn't want a drug addicted/ sex addicted friend. there's so much to be said and done. i give you applause for quitting for one person. that takes serious will power and shows so much about your character. i wish there was more people out there as strong as you to quit something cold turkey. now, my solution, do everything you can, find a counselor, a therapist, anything. you need to do this. i see how much you care about "kelly" and how much you want her back, so you need to do everything in your power to do this. be strong, think about the life you have ahead of you being clean, think about the life and relationship you can have with your friend and that should make you want to do this all the more. I'm praying for you and God bless.

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(Rating: 4) Thank you so much.
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