so i have this 'step-mom' who isn't actually my step-mom i just tell people that she is. she is actually my fathers girlfriend whom he has a child with who is therefore my half-brother. so even though her and my father ar not married i call her my step-mom and ive known her for about three years. anyway, she used to be really nice to me, like even a couple weeks ago she was still nice to me, but lately she's been a complete bitch. i'm really sick right now and im getting surgery in a couple days, and when she gets home from work she comes in and yells at me for not doing anything and about how everythings dirty and how i didnt do anything all day and i just sat there and watched tv. what am i supposed to do, im freaking sick and i cant walk!!! she doesnt even look at me anymore, never talks or anything. my dad hasnt said anything about it either. she left on a trip with my half brother about an hour ago and didnt even let me say bye to him, and she didnt even say bye to me, she just left. what did i do to her? i dont know what i should do anymore, i try to be nice any chance i can but she blows me off. any suggestions?
I think you should talk to her and your father about it. It's not fair that you have to deal with her being rude to you, especially when you're ill and about to get surgery. You really shouldn't be stressing out about things like that right now.
To be honest, there are just people like that. I don't know if she's always felt like that and is just showing it now or what. But I know a lot of people that get mad when they're at work and someone else is at home. When I lived back home, my father would get mad at me if I was at home when he got home from work, even if I was only how because I had a day off of work. She might just really hate her job and has misplaced anger that she's putting on you.
Either way, it needs to stop. So if you're not comfortable talking to her about it at all, try talking to your father first. Tell him how she's been acting (even if he's already seen it first hand) and ask him if he'll talk to her about how she's been acting.
In all honesty, you probably didn't do anything to her to deserve a reaction like that. She probably just upset because you've been sick and laying around the house while she's at work. It's stupid, of course, but as I said; she's probably just got misplaced anger.
It might clear up once you get your surgery done and get back to moving around and helping around the house. You should still talk to her or your father about it though, even if it is just for future reference.
If you decided to talk to her about it, approach her with it when she's calm and relaxed a while after she gets home from work or on one of her days off. Say something like, "We've always gotten along really well, but since I got ill, I feel like you've been angry with me. What did I do wrong?"
It will be straightforward and you'll get a direct answer back. She might not even realise that she's been acting like such a wench to you. If you bring it to her attention, she'll be able to figure out where her anger is coming from and put the blame on the right person or situation.
Darby(:
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thank you, ill try your suggestions! :)
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