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okay so ive liked this guy for a few months. he used to like me since 5th grade (basically since we met).im not sure if he currently does..but i keep getting signs that he might. we stopped talking after entering high school pretty much. but, now i do like him, back then..i dont know..i just didnt have feelings for him. anyway i found him on myspace, added him, he accepted, etc. so i commented him and said hi. he messaged me back and we talked for an hour. after, i asked for his number..he gave it to me. we havent really texted but once i was on myspace and aim, and he messaged me asking for my aim..so i gave him it and without me asking..he gave me his. he IMed me once, 3 days ago, and we talked for like 30 minutes. then 2 days ago..i decided to IM him first this time. so i was happy i was talking to him, but i was coming up with everything to say! he had a lot of one word reply's. it was boring for me, basically. you know? so then finally..in like the middle of the conversation, he started talking more after i brought up something about the past.. then it just went back to being boring. i said i had to go, and said bye. i waited for a few minutes, and he didnt respond, so i jsut logged off. that was the last time i spoke to him. a few hours after, he updated his profile..saying he had an interest in spanish girls? im not spanish..so i got confused with why he ever liked me? i mean, a lot of people mistake me for being spanish..although, i am white haha. but, ever since 2 days ago, he hasnt even tried talking to me? i mean, whats up with that? he makes it seem like he likes me then just doesnt even try to talk to me? ugh. anyway, so i go on myspace and i see how he commented on a bunch of different girls profiles calling them hot and sexy. =/. when hes talking to me..he acts like a total gentlemen. its soo weird. i dont know why he's so different around me? basically i just want some answers to all of this. im 16/f hes the same age. oh, and do you think i should even try with this guy? im so confusedd! thankyou

Hi,
Hmm, this guy seems interested,but unsure of a relationship. When he doesn't IM you back,he is probably waiting to see if you will IM him because he is most likely checking if you are interested enough to come back. But you should not be IM'ing him several times a day or it will seem overdone, try IM'ing him only a few times a week and not in a row,unless he contacts you.
You didn't say if you live close by eachother,or else you could ask him casually to come hang out one day or watch a movie. Some guys arent good conversation starters,so if the convo goes boring,try to pick it up with a sport or activity he likes doing or play twenty questions! He could just be tired and therefore has not much to say :/
When he mentions Spanish girls it could be that he thinks you are Spanish,maybe he is trying to make you jealous,or he is just saying that to change his profile and see how many Spanish girls hit him up (One of them could be you,you said you may appear Spanish..?.)
As I said earlier,he probably wants you to start the convo and He (obviously) changes how he acts around you because he wants to appear more mature around you,then when he is with his buddies being childlike and immature. He wants to impress you. If he wasnt interested he would not be changing how he acts/looks. He probably thinks that you are into more mature guys and so he changes himself to fit your 'ideal guy' that he sees you with. If this isnt what you want him to see you as,hang out with him and show him the real you :)
Yes! I know you should try. The main thing is that he changed himself for YOU. He doesnt care about what anyone else thinks. Comment his funny pic on his MSN,find his interests and talk to him!
You may think you are confused,hes probably thinking 'what do we have in common?'. Show him what your interests are,be yourself, and just GO for it!
Good luck!

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