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I got into my first relationship, and it's over now, but my friends are all upset and everything because they felt that we were all into each other instead of being with our friends, is this normal? How do I fix the tension with my friends?
Thanks in advance!
I'd say that this is fairly normal for a first relationship. You haven't learned how to balance friendships with relationships because this was your first relationship. If your friends say you ditched them for your boyfriend while you were dating him, they've got a reason to say it.
In order to fix the tension with your friends, you need to own up to it. Even if you honestly feel that you didn't ditch them for your boyfriend, just apologise. Say, "I see now where I was spending too much time with him and not enough time with you. That wasn't right of me to do and I'm really sorry. I'll make sure that in future relationships, I spend equal time with you guys." Just own up to it, state your apologies, and state what you're going to do in the future to make sure they don't feel like that again.
It's important for you to remember that they're not saying and acting like this to gain up on you. They're just upset because it hurt their feelings that you spent more time with your boyfriend than you did with them. They probably felt abandoned and now that you've just broken up with your boyfriend and are trying to be all friendly with them again, they most likely feel like they're being used. Pretty much, they feel like they were put on the back burner while you went off with your boyfriend, and now that you guys have broken up, they feel like you're coming back to them expecting things to go right back to normal. Just own up and apologise. They'll most likely understand and accept.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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Thanks, this helped a lot.
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