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Hi! :) my bf and I are both 18 and extremely happy with one another. We are also both born again Christians. I know he loves me and he knows that I love him, but he refuses to say the actual words "I love you". His reason? He doesn't want to ever say those three powerful words to more than one woman his entire life. (relationship wise...) he said that the person he days it to is the woman he will want to spend his life with. We have been going out for 3 months. I understand his reasoning and all...but I feel that if he feels something, then why not say it? Am I wrong? And when we talk about it he always tells me all this stuff EXCEPT I love you. He knows that I don't want to say it first too. He has told me to go ahead tho and say it first. In response to that I tell him that I don't want to because he won't say it back. He then would tell me that he is sure about our relationship but it's just gonna take him longer to say it. That basically means that, yes, he wouldn't tell me that he loves me back. :( so how long did it take for ur bf (or gf) to say it to u? Please help... Thank you in advance. (link)
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You're not wrong. But it definitely is based on opinion. Some people say "I love you" as often as they say "How are you". Others, like your boyfriend, believe it's only meant to be said to one person. Maybe he believes there's only one person out there he's meant to love. It might sound crazy but it's all mindset. I certainly understand that you yearn to hear him say those words. It kind of solidifies the relationship. But I think you need to respect his 'beliefs' or whatever it is. This will make him even more sure that he loves you.
Hope I helped.
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