okayy so i hung out with my ex and one of my best friends and then we met up with 2 other friends, so it was the 5 of us. it was chill, we talked like friends would talk, nothing serious. he brought up things from the past though like i had my favorite necklace on my mirror in the car and he pointed that out and one of my favorite songs was on the radio so he stopped and let it play saying "oh you love this song" when he doesn't like it. then at the end of the night i didn't feel like getting up so i said to like everyone "can someone give me a piggy back ride to the car" and he gave me one. he's been really chill and i want him back, but i don't want to come on too strong. so my questions are, 1. when should i ask him if he wants to go on vacation with me? (he probably does cause he wants me to teach him how to surf lol) and 2. should i just keep hanging out as his friend or should i hint i still love him? if so, how? thank you soo much..i should seriously be paying you haha.
Haha, alright, so it sounds like hanging out went really really well! That's exciting. Congrats.
Okay, so first question: If I remember correctly, you're going on vacation in July. You definitely need to give him a heads up soon and see if he wants to go. Like you said, it was already somewhat planned out, so I'm sure he'll agree to go. You just don't want to wait until the last minute and spring it on him. There's only one week left in June. I don't know if you're going at the beginning, middle, or end of July. If you're going at the beginning, you should ask him as soon as you feel comfortable asking him. If it's near the end, you can wait a couple weeks, which would be perfect for you to hang out with him more before you go.
Second question, I think you should just continue to hang out with him for a while. You can hint around that you still care about or think of him, without fully hinting that you're in love with him. You want to play it cool, like you said, you don't want to come on too strong. Try to hang out with him asap with friends or alone. If there's a movie out that you want to see, ask if he wants to go with you, especially if it's one that you think he'd like.
Once you hang out for a while, and especially when you go on vacation with him, it would be more appropriate to tell him how you're feeling fully. Right now, since you're just starting to hang out again, you want to play it cool, calm, and collected. Don't make him think that you don't care about him, but don't tell him you still love him yet. You don't want to scare him off or make anything awkward. Just play it cool and wait a while.
Darby(:
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It really depends on what kind of party it is. If it's just a small gathering of about 10 people or less, a party would be okay. But if it's an all-out drunken mess of people, it's definitely not a good idea. You won't be able to get any privacy, there will be people there acting stupid (because some people don't handle liquor well), it will be loud due to music and people talking, etc..
If you want to do something more private, see if he wants to go bowling/rollerskating/golfing/laser tagging. You could also have dinner at a semi-nice restaurant and go to a movie. If you don't have the money/transportation for these things, a nice walk would be good. You could go to the park and have a nice picnic, or if there are any lakes near your house, you could go there at night and just sit, watch the stars and talk. It's surprisingly entertaining and intimate, no matter who you're with.
Have fun(:
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thanks :) and when we hang out, what should we do? there's not alot to do in this town..he likes to party so should i go to a party with him? or would that be a bad idea?
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