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Hello.
I need some advice on my lack of self confidence... That line doesn't sound to great but I don't have another way to phrase it. Anyways to the point.
I have major self-confidence issues. I wear hoodies and jeans all times of the year including summer. Although it only gets to about 30-ish degrees on a hot day it's still hot and puts me at a risk of heat stroke. But I just can't bring myself to wear anything, I'm just to uncomfortable. This has gone on since I was child.
I hate when people compliment me. I feel I stand out and I don't like it. I don't wear bright colors for the same reason. My hair is always down, Again fear of standing out which really doesn't make sense seeing as though everyone wheres their hair up.
I hate being touched as well. I don't hug people, my best friends, my family.
I could go on and on about little things that impact my life in a big way because of the confidence issues.
Not sure if this has anything to do with it but I have this terrible fear of getting raped. I mean I'm sure no one like fantasizes about it, well, who knows. But I have nightmares about it almost every night and it's getting rather irritating and scary.
I really don't know what to do anymore.
Advice? Help? What should I do? Why am I like this?
In advance sorry for the typos it's late and I should be studying. Also, sorry about the length.
Oh, and if it helps I am a female and am fourteen, almost fifteen.

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As for the question you asked, I have talked to a Psychologist, BUT not for anxiety. The reason I went to him though went along with my anxiety issues. I would totally recommend seeing someone if you have parents who are willing to pay for that and such. Living with anxiety sucks =/ Pretty much controls your whole life day by day. Like how you ALWAYS wear sweat shirts.

Which reminds me. You don't by any chance sweat under your arms and that's a reason for the sweat shirt thing, is it? That's a sign of anxiety if you do. I was just wondering :)

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I can relate to some things you mentioned such as hugging people and feeling just plain uncomfortable a lot of the time. Mine is due to anxiety. I basically just care too much about how other people are perceiving me.

I could totally try to help you out and talk about this. We can talk through message on here if you'd like. Just send me a person message, it's still anonymous :)

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If you don't mind I have another question about the topic, if you choose not to answer it I am okay with that.
You said that your problem is due to anxiety issues, Do you talk to someone about them, I don't know if that would be a therapist or what?
Would you recommend it?
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